Surprising Health Benefits Of A Wedding

 

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You get married for one thing, right? Yep, everyone gets hitched because they have met the person of their dreams. So, all the stress and hassle of planning a wedding, it’s worth it when you get to say “I do.”

 

Well, it turns out there is one more reason to walk down the aisle: your health. Although it doesn’t feel this way, a wedding is an excellent way to boost fitness and well-being. Couples who tie the knot, according to studies, tend to be fitter and healthier than their counterparts.

 

Here are some of the reasons why this is the case.

Lower Stress Levels

Okay, so getting married can be a stressful and demanding time of your life. However, a study by the University of Chicago found that cortisol levels in married couples are lower than singletons. For those who don’t know, cortisol is the hormone which regulates stress. Too much of it in the body and the levels will rise and you will feel the adverse effects. Apparently, having a bond with a person, as well as a sounding board, is an excellent way to deal with other pressures in a person’s life. Considering healthline.com say stress is a killer, this is something to celebrate. Who’s got the second bouquet?

 

Get More Sleep

The majority of people would think that a wedding wouldn’t affect sleep. Indeed, having someone sleeping beside you is worse! However, Wendy Troxel found that married couples are better off in the sleep stakes. When a person is happy and content, they sleep through the night. So, a happy marriage is a vehicle for people, particularly women, to get 40 winks and the rest. Seen as sleep helps regenerate cells, repair muscle tissue, and improve a person’s mood, it’s an important part of everyday life. Just make sure you don’t interrupt your eight hours a night with too much hanky panky!

 

Reduced Health Costs

Healthcare is costly, and the price is enough to exclude some people from having coverage. Even those with a policy might not be able to afford a comprehensive one. This doesn’t apply to married couples. According to csmonitor.com, it is cheaper for married couples because they can combine their plans. A quick look on healthinsurancequotes.co will show this to be true. How does this help people’s health? Well, a comprehensive policy covers more ailments and helps people recover more quickly. When a person has a quality healthcare plan, they are likely to get better.

 

Live Longer

Last but not least, it’s longevity. At the moment, the rest of your life is a long way away. But, studies show that married couples tend to last the test of time. Not to be morbid, but Ilene Siegler says that unmarried people are more than twice as likely to die early. Apparently, the changes in marital status in midlife affect health risks for the better for those in a marriage. So, the big day is an investment for the rest of your days. How romantic!

 

When you look into your partner’s eye, remember that a wedding is about more than love.

Hire or buy your wedding suit?

Your beautiful wife to be has found the dress, the shoes and even the jewellery to match, but you still haven’t even Googled wedding suits.

So where do you start?
It’s your day too so you want to look and feel as dapper as possible yet you are still unsure whether to hire or buy your wedding suit.

First things first,ask yourself these 3 questions below, and you’ll be on the path towards making a decision.
1. What’s my Budget? If you are on a limited budget then you’ll most likely need to opt for hiring a suit.
2. How much time do I have? Tailoring a made-to-measure suit takes time so make sure you ask all the necessary questions before deciding.
3. Do I want to keep the suit? Keeping your suit is not like keeping a wedding gown. You will no doubt find many instances in which you will be able to wear it again. If this appeals to you then having a suit made to measure may be an option.

By now you may have an idea but just encase, I’ve put together a handy list of the pros and cons of hiring or buying your wedding suit.

Hiring your wedding suit.
Pros:

  •  If you’re on a tight budget it’s a great way to get a smart suit that won’t burn a hole in your pocket. Hiring your wedding suit is a popular option because you can wear designer brands without paying the hefty price tag.
  • If you’re getting married abroad and will have no use for a white linen suit when you get home it may be the sensible option.
  • If you are opting for a morning suit, it is unlikely you’ll have the chance to wear it again, so save your pennies and put it towards your honeymoon fund.
  • If you want to match your ushers, hiring all of your suits together can usually be done at a reduced cost.
  • If you lose or gain weight before the big day and your suit isn’t sitting right you can return it and get one that fits better with little to no fuss.
  • Dry cleaning fees are part of your hiring cost so you don’t have to spend extra money after the wedding getting it cleaned before you return it.

    Cons:

  • Your wife will keep her dress, but if you hire your suit, you will have no keepsake to look back on in 20 years.
  • If you are the sentimental type, you cannot pass down your suit to future generations.
  • You cannot guarantee that your grooms party will fit the select sizes in hiring suit shops.
  • Someone has to be in charge of returning all the suits after the big day, usually this is just a day or 2 after the wedding itself, you don’t want to be thinking of returning everything when you’re a hungover mess.
  • If the suit is damaged you will have to pay for it unless you have paid a damage waiver.

Buying a wedding suit
Pros:

  • You’ll get to own a fab smart suit you can wear time and again, at weddings, christenings and even funerals. Totally worth the money compared to your wife’s ornament. 😉
  • Having a suit made specially to fit is a total luxury, and if you can’t afford to splash out on your big day, when can you?
  • A tailored suit can be made to hide any areas you are self-conscious of such as wide shoulders or a large belly and can even make you look taller and slimmer.
  • You can try your suit on 10-15 years down the line and laugh at how married life has made you blissfully unaware of your expanding waistline! 😉
  • High street brands and online stores know that weddings are very expensive so they are now creating wedding wear that is both stylish and affordable.

Cons:

  •  It’s not a cheap option. A bespoke suit – made for you totally from scratch – can set you back at least £1000. A suit that has been tailored to fit can cost anything from £500 upwards.
  • 
It costs you time as well as money, there will be several fittings needed over the course of your suit being made.
  • Unless you buy the same suits for your best man and the ushers you may have to put up with not matching.
  • Accidents can happen and if your suit gets damaged in any way before the big day, you will need to fork out for it to be fixed and in extreme cases to be measured for a new suit.

Gary has decided that he wants a made to measure suit for our wedding. It’s an investment piece as well as a keep sake if nostalgia hits.

We were very lucky to be gifted this gorgeous suit from Dobell, Doesn’t it look sleek and sexy?

Front shot of Gary in the suit from shoulders down

Gary’s thoughts:

The suit fit comfortably the jacket wasn’t tight across the chest or back I felt I could move freely without it feeling too baggy. The style of the suit was excellent it could be used on multiple occasions, not just for a wedding. Possibly for a casual work suit or just a night out. The quality of the fabric and design of the suit makes this possible. The thing I like about suit trousers compared to a normal smart trouser is that they feel lighter and thinner making it easier for my legs to “breathe” and avoid getting too hot, these trousers were perfect for me as they felt super light on my legs and kept me from overheating. For me this was an excellent suit all round it was well made and fit me very well.
As Sassy stated before: I am looking to get a tailored made suit for the wedding but that’s only because I’ve never had one before and want to look my best on our big day and then I get to keep a nice well fitting suit. Depending on the style of suit you are having for an event will determine if you want to buy or rent, I would personally only buy a suit if I could use it more than once as they can be a lot of money.

Forward shot of Gary's suit jacket Full length side view of Gary in his suit

 

I hope this post has given you some useful information about hiring or buying your wedding suit.
Always remember to do your homework and shop around.There may be discounts or sales on, both online and in store, don’t just go for the first place you look at.
Happy hunting! 🙂

*This is a collaborative post with Dobell but all thoughts and opinions are our own.

End Of Life Care: How Does Complementary Therapy Help?

If you haven’t heard the term, palliative care refers to the care of patients that are coming toward the end of their life. It’s about keeping them comfortable, happy and secure as their life comes to its full circle. Advanced progressive illnesses such as cancer and dementia are commonly not responsive to medicinal treatment in a curative way.

When your family member has been through a rigorous programme of drugs, drips and hospital stays, palliative care can feel like a relief. It’s not just about managing their pain at the end of their life, but it’s about providing a holistic approach which incorporates spiritual care services with the view of achieving quality of life for the remaining months they have. If you want to learn some more about spiritual care in end of life patients, Stanford Medicine has a great spiritual care library collection that can be read from online. Many patients find palliative care difficult to handle, and not just emotionally. The side effects of palliative care can be difficult and so those patients that struggle with those effects often turn to complementary therapies.

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There is a great range of complementary therapies that are available to patients on end of life care. We’ve listed for you below the most common types of palliative care that patients turn to that differ from the traditional medical approach. If your relative is currently looking for additional relief, always seek the advice of a doctor before going ahead.

Homeopathy. You may have read about homeopathy in passing, but the extracts used in homeopathy are all designed to help stimulate the body into self-healing by activating the natural defences. These can mainly help a palliative care patient mentally, providing relief alongside traditional medicine.

Reiki. There are many healing types out there, and Reiki uses the energy of the patient in a positive way to find an internal balance. People have an electromagnetic field surrounding them, and Reiki helps to restore that healthy energy that is missing for a patient under end of life care. It can be used in patients to make them feel calm, relaxed and peaceful; which we all know goes a long way to healing.

Acupuncture. You can read about acupuncture here in more detail, but using needles to restore a natural rhythm to a system that is out of balance can be very effective. Emotional and physical stresses can be relieved in this way, and regular appointments can give patients time to relax and as it’s tailored to the individual, no two acupuncture programs will be the same.

Holistic therapies are often not supported by medical doctors as a method of treatment, despite the numerous evidence based articles that support them. Complementary therapies like the ones that have been listed have all had great success in alleviating emotional and physical pain of patients who are struggling to cope with their course of palliative care – which can be stressful. It runs alongside their regular treatment to provide additional relief, and can always be considered.

Disability Q&A #20 Angela Mills

Welcome back ladies and gents to another #DisabilityQ&A. Today’s interview is brought to you by Angela. I have known her since the beginning of my blogging journey, and I learnt a lot from her about adrenal insufficiency, back when her blog was called Days In Bed.

 

I’m really happy she wanted to take part in my series, now she can educate you lovely lot on her condition, far better than I ever could.

Tell me about yourself

Hi ,My name is Angela Milnes. I’m 33 years old. I live in Lancashire, United Kingdom, I’m a full time mum and professional blogger.I love researching my family tree and finding bargains.

Now we know the basics, can we learn a bit more about you?

Yes sure.

What is the medical reason you have a disability?

I have a diagnosis of Adrenal Insufficiency, Human Growth hormone deficiency and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.

Have you had your disability from birth?

No I became unwell in 2013, a week after my wedding.

Do you refer to yourself as a person with a disability? If not, why not?

Yes. I am unable to do the same as a normal healthy person.

Do you tell others about your disability? Or do you prefer to keep that to yourself until you are comfortable with the person knowing?

Yes I tell people about my disability and health issues. I often share on social media and on my blog theinspirationedit.com I also have been published 5 times on The Mighty.

Do you use any mobility AIDS such as a wheelchair or walking stick?

My illness fluctuates and I have a wheelchair and a walking stick and my needs and abilities change from day to day.




If you could extinguish your disability, would you? – If not, please explain why.

Of course. It is not fun being unwell and feeling so sick and I would not wish it upon anyone.

For those who do not know much about your disability how does it affect your mobility?

Adrenal Insufficiency can make me feel sick and dizzy. I get weak muscles and sometimes I cannot stand or walk.

How has your disability effected you?

*Socially

I can be isolated a lot when stuck in the home or bed bound and so I try to socialise via internet. This is my main source of socialising.

*physically

I can no longer exercise or do things like healthy people. I don’t walk my child to school as it drains too much energy and I have to limit and pace everything I do to manage myself the best I can.

*Mentally

Being unwell can make me feel anxious and upset, especially when I get really weak. I can get brain fog and feel confused and upset and that can lead to feeling stressed out.

Do you think your disability has made you who you are today?

Well it’s helped me to speak out and talk about my difficulties and become an advocate for health and disability. I think being unwell has also given me empathy for others and understanding. I have more sensitivity to others who have conditions as I know what it is like.

*Please give a positive example of how this has done so…

Well, I have a friend who’s daughter has Chronic Fatigue and I Understand what it is like and can relate to how hard it is for my friend as a carer for her child.

Is there a particular question you get asked often because of your disability? If so, please explain below.

Some people ask me when I will get better. I have a chronic condition and although there will be improvements in my health I will always have to manage and live with the health issues I have.

What are the positives of having a disability?

Well the one positive that came from my disabilities and health issues is my blog. I speak out about the condition and have built a small online space which I love to use. I don’t think I would have done this without having illness.

What are the negatives of having a disability?

There are many, the inability to do things I used to do and the way it impacts on my abilities as a mother.

What would you say is a difficulty for you being disabled?

Being able to go places on my own. I often need my husband with me incase I have an adrenal crisis.

As a person with a disability, what are the things you face on a daily that frustrate you?

*In your home

I get frustrated when I feel sick and too tired to do anything. I often want to be productive and have to take time out to rest.

*outside your home

Well I really don’t get out and about too much. When I do, I often get tired afterwards and suffer for it but some outings are worth it.

Are there any tips or tricks you use in daily life you’d like to pass on to another disabled person?

Just learning to pace and stop and rest when you need to. I think pacing and getting a good amount of sleep is really important.

What piece of advice would you give to someone newly diagnosed? Or going through a deterioration in vision / or mobility?

To learn what you can and instead of fighting the disability learn to adapt and live with it.

Any advice you’d like to give to a person with sight / no disabilities?

maybe just to be more understanding of chronic conditions. So many people say to me “it’s great to see you better” but the reality is i’m never really better, i’m just getting by.

Also I get nasty looks a lot when I park in a disabled park. Just because my condition is invisible does not mean I am not disabled.

Did you seek out any specialist services / charities to help you and your family deal with your situation?

Not really. There are not many groups for my condition in the UK but I found support and people with my illness on Facebook and that has really helped me to learn.

Where can people find you out in the world?
*Blog https://www.theinspirationedit.com/
*YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2pXbt6jyS8iM4plsTFtNyA
*FaceBookhttps://www.facebook.com/theinspirationedit/
*Twitter https://twitter.com/Inspire_Edit
*Google+ https://plus.google.com/u/0/102124377100011897038
*Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theinspirationedit/
*Pintrest https://www.pinterest.co.uk/inspirationedit/
*Email angela@daysinbed.com

❤❤ Thank you so much for taking the time to be interviewed Angela! ❤ ❤

I hope that my readers got as much value as I did from your Q&A

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4 Ways to Improve your Mental Health Today

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Mental health is becoming less of a taboo subject, and in the past few years alone there has been a marked increase in those diagnosed with conditions such as anxiety and depression.
It could be partly blamed on the stressful, corporate world we live in, but also the fact that many of these people were scared to admit they had a problem, for fear of being judged.

However as the online world is exploding to the forefront of everyone’s eyes, more and more people are stepping out of that shell and seeking help.

Today is the day to look at yourself and see something positive, to fight through those feelings and truly live in the moment. Here are four ways to improve your mental health today. Also feel free to check out my other post on this subject: Improve Your Mental Health by Avoiding these 3 Things.

Break up your day

Monotony can be one of the worst triggers for anxious and depressive thoughts because the mind allows itself to wander to a different place and let bad experiences take over. If you are doing the same job every single day, you may start to feel down, unworthy and sad. If there are a few different task you must complete each day, break them up throughout the day to wake up the brain. If you have to write 100 emails and create a spreadsheet- write 50 emails, then complete the worksheet- and go back to the emails later. Keeping the brain awake and alert is an effective way to improve mental health.

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Reset the mind

Learning to step back from stressful situations is a valuable skill in protecting the mind. If you’ve experienced a particularly stressful week, take a step back and switch off. Have a bath, pour some wine, relax. Learn to pamper yourself and have that all so valuable alone time once in awhile.

Ask for Help

Asking someone for help is one of the most difficult things to do when suffering from mental illness, but it is something that is so valuable and will lift a weight off your shoulders instantly. If you don’t feel like you can talk to a friend or family member, talk to a stranger. If the day is overwhelming, or you feel like you are going to hurt yourself for whatever reason. Talk to someone, visit an urgent care clinic, or simply write it down. It will lift a weight and help you to recover from whatever feelings are taking over.

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Take Care of Your Body

It’s just as important when it comes to taking care of the mind, to also take care of your body. It has been proven in studies that eating healthy and exercising increases the presence of neurotransmitters such as serotonin- the happy hormone. If you feel too anxious to visit a gym, there’s no need to force yourself out of your comfort zone. There are plenty of videos online which will teach you easy at home workouts with no need to fancy equipment.

The mind is a fragile thing which you should take care of with care. Following these simple tips, you will be able to improve your mental health, today, tomorrow, and in the future.



How to Recognize the Signs of Anxiety in Children

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Many children deal with anxiety and worry in daily life. It’s usually perfectly okay. However, more and more children are suffering from more severe anxiety problems. This is often due to problems at home, pressures from social media and their peers and stresses over school work and exams. Children today have a lot more to worry about than in previous generations.

 

Recognizing there is a problem and seeking help is always the first step to fighting mental illness and as children can’t always do this for themselves, it’s imperative that their parents are aware of the symptoms. Here are some common signs of anxiety in children.

 

Changed Sleeping Patterns

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Children suffering from anxiety may have trouble getting to sleep. They could be lying awake thinking about the day ahead, getting themselves more worried and wound up. You may notice them being tired in the morning, or seemingly over-sleeping as they start napping or have trouble waking up.

 

Eating More or Less

 

Children comfort eat when they are suffering, just like adults. But you could also notice them eating less, binge eating or displaying other signs of an eating disorder. Weight is a common concern for children in modern society, especially as they start getting a little older. So, if you have any concerns at all, contact HeadFirst Counseling who may be able to help.

 

Quietness

 

One of the first signs parents notice is that their usually chatty and open child has become withdrawn and quiet. This doesn’t necessarily need to be about them opening up about problems, you may just notice them being much less lively and talkative than usual. This could be because there is something on their mind, or they want to tell you something but are struggling to find the words. In these situations, it’s important that you find ways to let them know you are there, without pushing and pressuring them to talk.

 

Change in Behavior

 

You know your child better than anyone and will be the first to spot any changes in their behavior, small or large. Keep an eye on them, if there is anything that concerns you, either gently speak to them, or get advice. When it comes to your children and their health, physical and mental, it’s important to trust your instincts.

 

Not Wanting to Do Things

 

Another common symptom of anxiety in both adults and children is a loss of interest in doing things they used to enjoy. In children, this often manifests as not wanting to go to school, to extracurricular clubs and classes or out playing with their friends. Try to look for a pattern in this behavior; it may give you a clue as to what it is that is causing them such anxiety.

 

Spending More Time Alone

 

Children suffering from anxiety often retreat to a safe place. This could be their bedrooms, a den, or anywhere they feel comfortable and safe. While it’s normal for children to seek out some space of their own, if you are having to force them to come out, it could be a sign of a problem.

 

While on their own, these things shouldn’t be too much of a concern, if your child is exhibiting several signs and symptoms you should contact your GP or a counselor for help.

Improve Your Mental Health By Avoiding These 3 Things

Mental health affects one in five adults and can be a deadly illness to overcome. If it’s not treated properly then you could be facing a long and difficult road. Whether you suffer with chronic stress, anxiety or depression, you should get yourself some help. There’s no weakness is admitting that something isn’t right within your mind and in fact, it takes great strength to seek help. There are many factors in life that increase the symptoms of mental health issues, and they should be avoided as much as possible to ensure that your mental health improves and you can start feeling more like yourself again.

Alcohol

Drinking alcohol in recommended amounts is generally a safe thing to do, but as humans we tend to overindulge and have more than we are supposed to. Alcohol is a depressant, which upsets the chemical balance in our brains and therefore increasing any underlying issues with our mental health. It also dehydrates us, and it often takes us the following few days to restore the water missing from our bodies. Drinking too much can also affect our judgement and actions, meaning that we may end up doing something we wouldn’t normally do when we’re sober. Staying away from alcohol (or at least sticking to the recommended daily amount) will greatly reduce any feelings of anxiety, stress, or depression. If you think you might be addicted to alcohol, find your nearest AA meeting or speak to your GP for ways to quit and get your mental health back on the right track.

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Cannabis

Using cannabis is often mistaken for ‘helping’ mental health issues, but this is not the case. While it may give you a high and relax you for a short time, once you have come down from cannabis you feel the need to have more. The side effects from smoking it actually increase feelings of anxiety and depression, and studies have shown that long term use from an early age actually link to people developing mental health issues in the first place. Things like schizophrenia and depression have been proven to develop in some people that have smoked it from an early age. To stop smoking weed, visit https://canadiancentreforaddictions.org/how-to-stop-smoking-weed-forever/ and give up the addiction that’s making you falsely believe it’s helping your mental health.

Junk food

As much as we all love junk food, it’s unfortunately going to increase the bad feelings that come across you to do with your mental health. Try to eat as much fresh food as possible. Not only will you notice your mental health improve, but you may even drop a few pounds which will add to your self confidence.

Avoiding these three things will greatly improve your state of mind and allow you to take the right steps to recovery. If you are still struggling, see your GP for help on defeating your mental health issues. Don’t struggle alone.

 

 

Blind Girl Hacks: Top 10 Uses For Vaseline

Blind Girl Hacks; 10 Fab Uses of Vaseline.

There are some things in life which I believe every girl needs,; yes you’ve guessed it Vaseline! Not only is it cheap but vaseline is multi-purpose! here are just a few ideas that I’ve found Vaseline to be fantastic for! And as a blind girl, it’s a double positive!

Primer

This may not be an original thought for those of you who are into beauty and make up, but as an emergency Vaseline can be used as a primer! It gives your face the smooth and glossy look, while also moisturising your skin!

Fix Eyeliner

Whether you’r a pro at putting on eyeliner, or you are just starting out with experimenting Vaseline is a handy way of removing excess eyeliner. Simply uses a cotton bud with a small amount on the end and rub the thickest part of the eyeliner.It will remove it, without messing up the rest of your make up!

Teeth

Sounds a bit strange right? But applying a little amount on your top 6 teeth before applying lipstick will make sure that not only will your lips not stick to your teeth, but if you do have a lipstick stain it can be quickly removed!

 




Lipstick

Applying a thin layer of Vaseline on your lips a minute or so before applying lipstick will give your lipstick extra hold and extra shine.

Lipstick II

Not a big fan of lipstick, or just forgotten it?
Use a cotton bud or lipstick brush and add about a pea-sized amount of Vaseline to the tip.
Using your finger add some eyeshadow to the brush/bud, and gently mix the two. You can now apply your new lipstick shade to your lips.

Highlight/Shine

Add Vaseline to your brow line, cheekbone and cupids bow to give that highlighted/shimmer effect.

Makeup Remover

If your make up isn’t budging with soap and warm water, apply Vaseline to the area and gently wipe with a cotton pad. Be careful around your eye area!
Applying Vaseline to your eyelashes helps give a glossier shine as well as helps the lashes to grow!

Nails

Applying nail polish can be a pain, especially with limited or no vision. Make sure to put a healthy amount around each nail before painting them, it stops the nail polish from staining the finger, and makes the excess easy to remove with a cotton pad.

NailsII

Gently massaging Vaseline into your nails is a great way of keeping your cuticles soft and healthy! If you’re lucky enough to not get varnish on your fingers, use the excess to rub into your cuticles, instead of removing it!
Make sure your nails are dry first! 🙂

Perfume

Applying Vaseline on your sweet spots beforehand, such as wrists, inner elbow and collarbone, keeps the fragrance lasting longer throughout the day.
Don’t rub your perfume, dab it!

I really hope these tips were useful, they certainly make my life easier 🙂

Much love,
Sassy x




20 Ways To Save Money on Your Wedding

With the average cost of a British wedding measuring a whopping £25,000 it’s no wonder people are searching for cheaper alternatives or budget tips.

For those savvy savers, or just looking for ideas to help cut costs i’ve compiled a list of tips to help you stretch your money a little further.

Get married on a different time of the week/ year.

If you get married on a weekday, or in Winter you can save anything from 1/3 to 1/2 off your bill.

Create a wedding website.

There are so many great wedding websites out there, which you can completely customise to suit your theme and personality.
This can save you a ton of money as well as being good for the environment.

Don’t get married in the traditional places.

Unless your heart is set on a church or hotel wedding, opt for local places you can hire and make your own.
Hire a farmers field and have an outdoor wedding.

Hold the ceremony and reception in the same place.

This can save you money on transport as well as stress.
Hosting the big day at a hotel or country house means you don’t have to organise transport and sleeping arrangements could also be included in the price.

Ask a friend/ family to be master of ceremonies.

If you want to make your ceremony more unique, ask a person you care for who is not shy with public speaking to say a few words.
This would not make the marriage legal, so you would have to get legally married either before or after your big day, this again could save you money because your are not paying extra for registry / minister fees.



 

Don’t mention the W word.

Whether you are doing your research online, on the phone or in person, do not mention to vendors that it is for a wedding when you are seeking a cost analysis.
Tell them it’s for a celebration or party, and once a price has been given, explain that it is for a wedding,

Only invite immediate family and friends.

This is definitely a tough one, especially if you both have large families,but weddings are expensive and the food per head is usually a large chunk of your budget.
Don’t invite colleagues, neighbours and distant relatives, this can definitely help trim the guest list down.

Ask wedding guests for their time/ talents as wedding gifts.

Does your nan fancy herself as a florist? Ask her to do your centrepieces.
Is your best friend a keen baker? Ask her to make your wedding cake.
A cousin who can keep a crowd laughing? Ask him to do a 15 minute set to entertain your guests?
There are so many possibilities if you tap into a persons’ creative side, plus, more often than not, people love to be involved and help in any way they can.

Use a credit card for payments.

There are plenty of credit cards out there that can give you up to 5% cash back on purchases You need to pay it off in full every month or you’ll get charged massive interest.
Credit cards are also great because under section 75 of the consumers act, if you pay for an item on your credit card and the item is damaged or faulty, the credit card company is jointly liable and protects you as a consumer.

Buy from the high street or rent.

These days there are some beautiful wedding dresses, morning suits and accessories for a fraction a the price.
High streets realised there is a market for good quality but affordable wedding wear, such as  Debenhams and Asos so you will be sure to find something for a fraction of the wedding industry price.

You can choose to hire suits and this can definitely slash the cost instead of buying outright.

There are also great second hand alternatives such as, Preloved and Sell my Dress and in a lot of cases the dress was purchased but never worn.

Alternatively ask for your party to buy/ wear their own.This may make you feel uncomfortable but if you are trying to save money that can be a great option.
Giving your wedding party an outline of what colour scheme you are going for and giving them free reign to choose their own outfit can make the wedding more personal and relaxed.



Use a courier service to transport your goods.

Whether it’s UK based or even further afield, you may not have the time or budget to collect a bespoke ornament or wooden decorations.This is where Shipley comes in handy, they safely deliver your purchase, using already loaded but not full cargo. They use all available space and resources instead of sending drivers to do one drop off.
This saves the environment and can save you a lot of money too!

Buy your own alcohol.

Depending on where you choose to get married, there may be a corkage fee on your venue.
However if you are staying away from traditional norms and holding your wedding in a village hall, alcohol will be up to you to provide.
A booze run to France can certainly save you some pennies.

Make DIY bunting/ confetti/favours.

If you and your significant other are crafty and also wanting to cut costs, creating your own bunting, confetti and favours can save you a lot of money.
Places such as hobby craft are great for inspiration as well as getting all the materials you could need to create your own special touch to the day.

Don’t hire a photographer/ videographer.

If you have a budding photographer in the family, ask them to take snapshots of your special day.
Likewise ask friends and family who are attending the wedding to take photos and upload them to your wedding website after the big day.
Not only will you have a keepsake but you’ll probably have some candid shots that a professional may not catch.

Don’t hire a DJ or a band.

The price of music/ entertainment for a wedding can be enormous, remember the W word?
If you have musically talented friends or family, ask them to perform, it will make the day more intimate and save your bank balance.

Create your own playlists.

If you want to go super savvy, but not lose out on keeping the party going. Creating a playlist on Spotify can get you and your significant other to put together a list of your favourite songs, again making the day become personal and intimate.
Likewise, if you don’t want to do the legwork, or you and your S.O, have different tastes in music ask your guest to pick a song they like, that everyone can dance to.
This will make your guest feel more involved and take some of the strain off of the two of you.

Don’t hire transport.

If you are holding your ceremony and reception in the same place, that alone can save you money, because you don’t have to pay for transport for you and your guests.
If your ceremony and reception are within walking distance, why not take that stroll with your guests to the venue, it’ll give them a chance to mingle and get to know one another, and give you and your other half time to soak up the atmosphere.
Another option is car sharing, if the reception is close by, you could have a bunch of designated drivers to take your wedding party, just make sure to stick some pretty ribbon to the cars so your guests know it’s the right car.

Buy flowers at local markets.

If you want to save money on a florist, and don’t have any green fingered relatives or friends, going to your local flower market a day or 2 before your big day can be a way to give something back to your local community, as well as getting some gorgeous flowers at a very reasonable price.
The only drawbacks would be, needing to arrange the flowers for your party and reception yourself. as well as getting flowers that are in season and at the market at the time.

Serve wedding cake as pudding.

This is a brilliant idea. By the time you have eaten your share of food, guests are generally too full to eat any cake.
Even if you wrap it up, guests can still leave it behind in their tired or drunken state.
Serving it to your guests as pudding ensures it gets eaten and the bakers hard work has not gone to waste.

Create a honeymoon fund and ask guests to donate instead of giving presents.

As we are in the 21st century and most couples live together before they get married, the traditional registry list can be null in void.
Guests want to gift you with something, and if you have everything you need, asking for donations to your honeymoon fund, will mean less for you to save, and your guests feeling happy that they have contributed to something you truly want!



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Remember your day is about you and your partner joining together in front of your nearest and dearest. Ultimately the decisions are up to you as a couple. Don’t let others influence you or make you feel bad for including, or not including specific things to your day.

Make sure to ask vendors upfront that if the price they are giving you includes VAT, otherwise this can come as a nasty shock looking at your bill.

Always get EVERYTHING in writing. This means you and your vendors have physical evidence of communication and can stop any disputes in their track.

And most importantly remember, have fun! It’s one day, and it’ll only be you that notices the little things.

*This is a sponsored post, but all thoughts and opinions are my own.

Disability Q&A #19 Vicky

Welcome back Ladies and Gents to another instalment of my Disability Q&A.

Today we have Vicky, she and I follow each other on Twitter and she reached out and asked to be a part of the series. I’m really happy that she did because her truth shines a light on just how tough life can be living with a disability.

Over to you Vicky 🙂

Tell me about yourself:

Hi, i’m Vicky (AKA LooneyChick), I’m 34 and I live in Cornwall.
I am a Blogger and Vlogger and my hobbies include Blogging, Photography, Social Media, Swimming, mountain biking, Scooting, playing the guitar,
writing music and going to music gigs.

Now we know the basics, can we learn a bit more about you?
By day I work as a freelance social media, content and SEO manager, at night and weekends, I like
to Vlog and Blog.

What is the medical reason you have a disability?
I suffer from a suspected Bipolar type 2, and I also have a bulging disc in my lower back which affects
my mobility.

When were you first diagnosed?
I first saw a psychiatrist in May 2015 and then again in November 2015. They first thought I had a
personality disorder and then they said I had Adjustment disorder, but they couldn’t rule out
whether I had Bipolar because they didn’t have enough evidence to support this because they
needed to see me when I’m on a high.

Did you notice changes within yourself first, or did someone else?
I’ve always felt different. Many people have told me that I like depressive music and my idols are
mainly people who have killed themselves.

Some people have also said that they don’t know how to approach me because they don’t know
whether I will be happy or sad.

I’ve always failed to keep friends and hold down jobs. Some days I can’t focus other days I’m very
over productive, and some days I have been told I can be normal so to speak.

Do you refer to yourself as a person with a disability? If not, why not?
Yes because I haven’t got the same abilities as an average person; for example, I hate being in
crowded places, I can’t take lots of information in at the same time, and I have problems with
finances. When I’m on a high, I often overspend on things I don’t necessarily need. I’m extremely
impatient as well.

Do you tell others about your disability? Or do you prefer to keep that to yourself until you are
comfortable with the person knowing?
Only my family and close friends know about my disability.

Do you take any medication, or have you in the past?
I was put on Sertraline in September 2013, but it didn’t make a difference, so in February 2014, I
was given the option and prescription for Prozac, but my doctor said that I wouldn’t need pills, but I
would have a choice.
A year later, In February 2015 I was put on Venlafaxine by a Psychiatrist.

What were your initial thoughts about taking medication?
I was disappointed in myself for not being able to stay medication free. I felt like a failure because I
was letting something far more powerful than I could control take over my mind.

Did you suffer from any side affects? If so, please explain.
I once went away to my sister’s to look after her children while she was in hospital and I forgot my
medication. Within 48 hours I was really sick and I felt really low and couldn’t function. I remember
lying on the couch with tears streaming down my cheeks without reason.




If you could extinguish your disability, would you? – If not, please explain why.

Yes and no. I enjoy the feeling you get when you are on a high, as long as it doesn’t get me into
trouble. However, what goes up must go down and the further I go up, the further I will fall. The
lows are the worst feeling ever
For those who do not know much about your disability how does it affect your mobility?
*
When I’m depressed I always feel tired; I sleep more, although it’s never a deep sleep and anxiety
makes my legs feel wobbly.

How has your disability effected you?
*Socially
When I’m high, I’m a social butterfly, buzzing with laughter and jokes, and often over familiar with
people, and when I’m depressed, I don’t want to see or talk to anyone.
*physically
When I’m on a high, I have lots of energy, and with the lows, I have little energy.
*Mentally
I’m very alert on highs, and when depressed I’m unable to focus, and I’m physically and mentally
drained.
Do you think your disability has made you who you are today?
*Please give a positive example of how this has done so…
I probably wouldn’t have started a blog on mental health if I didn’t suffer from it and I wouldn’t have
researched the different types of illnesses.

What are the positives of having a disability?
Learning and understanding the disability. One of the reasons I started my blog to help raise mental
health awareness.
What are the negatives of having a disability?
Having and trying to have a normal life and deal with the stigma.
What would you say is difficult for you being disabled?
*
Relationships and working are both complicated for me because I can’t hold down friendships and
relationships. I’ve also struggled to gain and maintain working in an environment full of people
which is part of the reason why I became self-employed.

Are there any tips or tricks you use in daily life you’d like to pass on to another disabled person?
Make lists and make time for exercise or meditation even if it’s just 30 minutes a day.
still like to make old fashioned lists with pen and paper or on a whiteboard to help me remember
things. I also keep a diary on my desk.
I have been guilty of not taking enough time out from the computer to do my daily exercise and
meditation. I’m hoping to join a gym after Easter.
Do you use Assistive technology in your daily living?
No apps at the moment, Just diaries and lists.
What piece of advice would you give to someone newly diagnosed? Or going through a similar
position?
Try and find a local group to visit. If you don’t want to go on your own, ask a parent, carer or a
friend. You will learn more about your illness, and they will help give you advice on how to stay safe.
Also, check my blog www.looneychickblog.co.uk and other mental health blogs. You can educate
yourself and even talk to people on social media who are going through the same thing as you.
Any advice you’d like to give to a person with no mental health issues?
Please take some time out to learn about mental health. 1 in 4 people have it. It’s easy to ignore,
laugh at and just pretend it’s not happening to you or your loved one. The chances are that it’s real
and happening and at least one of your loved ones is suffering from a mental health issue
(undiagnosed) or has previously suffered. There’s no shame in ringing up one of the charity
helplines or going to a group if you are struggling to cope with a loved one’s mental health problems.
Whatever you do don’t abandon them, this has happened to me several times.

Did you seek out any specialist services/charities to help you and your family deal with your
situation?
*MIND – I read their website regularly for up to date news.

*Counselling – I have previously had CBT sessions with the NHS, and I was on the Community Mental
Health Team until the end of last year.
*Support groups
I attend group meetings at a Bipolar Group who are part of Bipolar UK once a month.
Where can people find you out in the world?
*Blog – www.looneychickblog.co.uk
*YouTube – Launching in April (Date to be decided)
*FaceBook – https://www.facebook.com/The-Looney- ChickBlog-663020583855452/?ref=bookmarks
*Twitter – @adminChick
*Google+ – https://plus.google.com/u/0/b/110128946030393319190/110128946030393319190
*LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/vicki-williams- 94187611/
*Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/looneychick
*Pinterest – Also going Live in April
*Email – Vicky@looneychickblog.co.uk

❤❤ Thank you so much for taking the time to be interviewed! Vicky, I love your honesty in what you have gone through, and I love that you encourage others to seek help and learn about mental illness. ❤❤

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