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To my first, and forever love

A letter to my first and forever love.

I call myself a blogger and yet here I am at a loss of how to put pen to paper so-to-speak.

There is no-one quite like you; fiercely loyal, utterly stubborn and hungry for knowledge.

It’s you Harry Potter.

You have been in my life for 20 years now and I know we will be friends until my dying day. The story may be about you, but it’s your journey of friendship, family, faith and hope that i’ve fallen in love with.

I’ve been a reader my entire life but no other story can intrigue, enthral and enrage me quite like you.
I remember the day I was introduced to your world.
At first a world of loneliness and resentment, and gradually a world full of warmth, happiness and comfort.
There were dark and terrible times ahead, just like life itself, but through compassion, solidarity, kindness and courage you fought your way through and came out triumphant.
You have taught me to appreciate who I am, and to ignore the negativity that comes with staying true to yourself.
You’ve taught me that looks can be deceiving and to never judge a book by it’s cover.
You’ve taught me that being bookish and brainy is the new beautiful.

Harry potter books in Order from left to right

You’ve taught me that being courageous doesn’t always mean fighting the biggest battles sometimes it’s about standing up for what is right.
I’ve learned that making mistakes is apart of life, but we have to learn to forgive others as quickly as we forgive ourselves.
I’ve learned that true friendship is worth more than what money could ever buy.
I’ve learnt that heartbreak is torturous and that loss is inevitable. But what i’ve learned the most is that love will always prevail. There is room in our hearts to love as many as we can, yet that love will never be lost just because someone is gone.

Harry's Wand infront of two candles and a wax melter

Harry Potter, you’ve been a source of comfort in the lonely days, a place where I can escape to, and a gentle reminder that hope can always be found.

7 books, 8 films and 20 years of my life that i’ve learnt, grown, adapted and survived:with you by my side.
My first, and forever love.

“Even after all this time?”

“Always,”




Disability Q&A #18 George Rector

welcome back ladies and gents to another #DisabilityQ&A 🙂
I am happy to introduce you to a lovely gentleman called George, we met on Twitter and he is a beacon of positivity and warmth. not only is he a great advocate for people with disability, he is always there to lend a helping hand, or in the case of the Internet, lend a listening ear to anyone who may need it. I am lucky to call him my friend 🙂

Over to you George!

. Name: My name is George Rector. I am married to my best friend whose name is Sandy.

Where I live: I live near Orlando, Florida, USA (near Disney).

Occupation: I am a retired eye doctor. I had to quit practice due to my Multiple Sclerosis. I have been an MS Peer Counselor for about 13 years.

Hobbies: My passion is photography. My ability declined as my disability increased. I also like to read or listen to audiobooks.

Reason for disability: I have the rarest form of Multiple Sclerosis. I also have Spinal Cord Damage and am a T10 paraplegic.

Refer to myself as person with a disability? Yes, I refer to myself as a person with a disability. I don’t like the term handicapped, as I feel it is degrading. I despise the terms “wheelchair bound” and “confined to a wheelchair.”

Do I tell others? My paraplegia is quite obvious from my wheelchair, the elephant in the room. I am open about my MS. As for specifics, I share those with people as I get to know them.

Mobility aids: I use a wheelchair full time and have for many years. My chair is a small, titanium chair that is light weight and fits well most places. I don’t object to some stares, as I think that is normal. I do make eye contact and willingly answer questions from children.

If I could extinguish my disability, would I? For me, personally, no I wouldn’t. While I am quite independent, the disability shifts tasks to my wife. I would like to make her life easier. Otherwise, definitely No. I like who I am and the people I have met.

How does it affect my mobility? I have 2 things going on. The obvious thing is my wheelchair. As a T10 paraplegic I have paralysis below the waist. The MS adds to the mobility issue with fatigue. I think fatigue is the most disabling part.

How has disability affected me? First of all, disability ended my professional career. It affects the house we can live in and where we live. My last winter in the North I got snowed in for weeks, and my health suffered.

Has disability made me who I am today? Yes, indeed, it has. Aside from my ever present wheelchair, It changed my profession to volunteer. I have met many wonderful people. The 2 words I hear most often in Peer Counseling are “alone” and “overwhelmed.” At times I feel like that, as well. I try every day to brighten someone’s day, to make them feel less alone and not so overwhelmed.

Question I get asked about my disability? I get stares because of my wheelchair, especially from children. I get asked what happened? Children get an answer; adults who are strangers get a farfetched story. I like to explain to children and will demonstrate my titanium chair to anyone who asks.

Positives of a disability: 2 things come to mind. First, it makes me think, figure things out, think about who I am and how I can help someone. Second, I have met some wonderful people. I met wonderful people before disability, but this is different. There is a bond, a sense of helping one another get through a rough time.

Negatives of disability: Again, 2 things. It places an added share of the load on my wife, and it dictates the type of house we can live in. The huge negative is the added expense. The costs of a disability are staggering

A difficulty for me being disabled: The worse thing is being down here when the rest of the people are up there. In a group, people stand and look at each other when talking. The sound literally goes over my head. It is isolating

What frustrates me? I deal with my wheelchair and the things I need because of my MS. The frustrations come with attitudes, terms “wheelchair bound” and “confined.” There is no duct tape binding me, and my mommy isn’t making me sit in a corner.

Tips for others: For dealing with paraplegic, I’d like to pass along the 2 basic rules. Call ahead to make sure where you’re going is accessible, and use the bathroom before you leave home. For dealing with MS, remember that there are many things. Vision is one of them. Don’t settle. Learn about large print, magnifiers, reading glasses with prism, proper tint for your needs.

Assistive technology? I have reading glasses that are more than just magnifiers. Tinted lenses to manage light. E-readers to control the print size, and audiobooks. Of course, there is my wheelchair. A custom, ultra light weight wheelchair is a prosthetic body.

Advice to someone newly diagnosed: Much of my work with MS has been talking with those who are newly diagnosed. Ask questions; read; don’t trust feel good stories (crip porn) on TV but get information from sources like National MS Society, United Spinal, NFB, etc.

Advice to the person with no disability: Remember that the person you encounter who has a disability is a person. Not a wheelchair; not a white cane; a real person who loves and can be loved; a person with interests and passions; a father or mother; a doctor; or even a blogger!

Special services I use: I volunteer with the National MS Society, and I get more back from volunteering than what I put in. The MS Foundation is good, also. I’d also recommend the Low Vision Section of the American Optometric Association.

Where can you find me? If after all this anyone wants to find me, I’d be honored.
My blog is Popping Wheelies. It is everything you’ve ever wondered about someone who lives life on wheels, and more. www.poppingwheelies.wordpress.com
Twitter: @grector71
Instagram:Grector71
Facebook: George Rector
LinkedIN: George Rector
Email: grector71@gmail.com or george.rector@nmss.org

Anything that I’d like to add: I’d like to thank Sassy for all she does for so many people. And I’d like to get in another plug for my blog, Popping Wheelies!

Thank you!!!!!

❤❤ Thank you so much George, I love that you see your disability as a positive, and the way it has impacted your life and meeting new people. I think like you, for the most part, we would love to change our disability for our loved ones, for all the times they have had to go the extra mile, or change plans because something wasn’t accessible when it should have been. Also, I really love your blog and I think everyone should check it out!❤️❤️ ❤❤

If you, or anyone you know, would like to take part in my Campaign, do not hesitate to contact me on the following:
Email:SassysWorld6@gmail.com
Twitter
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http://www.thinkingoutloud-sassystyle.com/category/disability-qa-campaign/




Adventures At Butlin’s Bognor Regis Part 3

Butlin’s Bognor Regis Part 3

Day 4.

Gary and I clearly needed a night of chilling, we didn’t get down to
breakfast until after 09:30.And we weren’t the only ones who had a lay in either, I guess we all needed it.
Breakfast.

Breakfast consisted of cereal and boiled eggs on toast, I wanted something that was going to fill me up for the day but not be too heavy as we planned on going for a swim in splash world; all free as part of your Butlin’s booking. The only thing we needed was a £1coin for our lockers which would be returned to us afterwards.

Although the sun was lovely and hot, the wind had picked up giving you a good breeze.
This would have been absolutely fine if my dress wasn’t thin and floaty…

A family were just behind us with their child saying “doggy” when I shouted over my shoulder, yes it is a doggy!
At the same time a big gust of wind came and blew my dress unto my waist, revealing my underwear and bum!
I squealed and tried to push my dress down, but the damage had been done, I had scarred their retina’s for life!
I sort of regained my composure and jokingly said; “Well, that was certainly a Marilyn Monroe moment!”
To which everyone giggled!




Splashworld.

Splash world was great fun, , there was nowhere you could properly swim around, but let’s be honest I was there for the flumes and water rapids!
After wondering around for a minute or two and Gary pointing out what was where, we decided to head for the water rapids first.
You have to be a minimum height of 1.4m and be able to swim, because the jets of water are that strong that they push you around.
You can choose to use a rubber ring or let the current take you. I Opted for the rubber ring, it was great just lazing and having the water push you around the pool.
I had just gotten off the rubber ring and was about to swim around when a life guard came over and asked me to get out of the pool, both Gary and I said to the life guard about my blindness, but he didn’t want me out because of my sight, but because he wanted to measure my height against the measure thing.
I explained that I had already measured myself, Gary likes to embarrass me with these sorts of things. But the lifeguard insisted I get out so he could see for himself.

I became very petulant and declared that as I was a 26 year old woman,I was not getting out of the pool.
Gary persuaded me; “Sassy it’s his job at the end of the day, he needs to check.”
Meanwhile the lifeguard agreed I may be 26 and measured myself but he had to check.
I very reluctantly got out and stood infant of the measuring thingy, what a lovely humiliating moment that was!

all was good; and I was sent on my merry way. After a few more circuits of the water rapids we decided to head over to the wave pool.
Gary seemed very enthusiastic about the waves until he realised the wave machine wasn’t going to get any stronger and then he started to pout.

I kept jumping onto his back so I could have a little ride and enjoy being lazy some more!

We then headed off to the water slides; the highest slide is called the space bowl, this is where you go down a normal shoot and right at the end it spins you around and around and spits you out into a big plunge pool at the end.
When we reached the top Gary asked the lifeguard if he could assist me getting onto the slide.
The guy was very friendly but said he would have to radio his boss to see if I was allowed to go on the space bowl, Because of the way it throws you out, you need to know which way to swim when you reach the surface.
Gary and I joked that I’d wasted 10 years walking up the stairs (big, sturdy and very accessible for VI people), that I may have to turn around and go all the way back down.
Thankfully the guys’ boss agreed that as long as Gary went first and shouted at me to guide me to the steps then he was happy to let me go down.

So off I went, down the slide, at my usual slow pace and suddenly i’ve turned a corner and sped up, I did squeal a little as I was not expecting that sort of speed!
I got to the bowl bit and slowed down, when it finally spat me out, I landed flat on my back, not only was that rather uncomfortable to say the least but the pressure of the plunge threw my bikini bottoms off right down to my knees.
So I was frantically pulling them up with one hand as I held my nose with the other, even after I exited the pool Gary and I were still rearranging my bikini bottoms, and my dignity… It could only happen to me!!

We then continued onto the slides we had passed on our way up the Devil’s drop.
There was an orange one and a green one side by side, after helping me get to my slide Gary was going to shout over for me to go and we could race.
The water was gushing down the flumes so loudly i couldn’t hear when he said go.
They were much quicker than I anticipated, but not as fast as the space bowl shoot.
The one thing I’m not a fan of with water slides is the way it scratches your back on the way down.

The last and final water slide we went on was a proper race against one another slide. A great chance for all the family to race each other if you are the competitive type!
With this slide you had to sit up but have your arms folded across your chest but touching each shoulder.
Unfortunately this didn’t make me go faster, and when I shouted across to Gary that I had stopped halfway down he just told me to stand up… I was at the end.
There was me expecting another plunge pool kind of thing…

After a few more circuits around the rapids, without a rubber ring this time, it definitely feels like you are going much faster, especially if you are going backwards.
We decided it was time to head back to the chalet and go see how our little pup had survived without us.

Ida lying on the floor with Dylan a brown Alsatian lying his head on top of her head

Funfair.

Being the big kid I am, and with it being our last full day I said to Gary that i wanted to check out the funfair.
The first ride we went on was the giant swings.
It wasn’t until we were on the ride and Gary was swinging out that he exclaimed he didn’t much like this ride.
He became more adamant that he didn’t like the ride when he apparently was at a 90 degree angle.
I just sat there cackling my head off. For good measure I said, oh maybe your swing is broken?
The horror on his face was priceless, it just sent me off into more hysterics!
The man operating the ride was helpful by looking after Ida, and saying how good she was the whole time we were on the ride.

The next ride we went on was a cart where a metal bar is placed over two of you and lock in place, this stops you from falling out but is also there as a handle if you need it.
Gary demanded that he was not going on this ride, I was a horrible person and basically forced him to go on.
I’m so glad i did, his reaction was beyond priceless on this ride!!
He was fine with it being up in the air and going around, but the second the cart tilted at 45 degrees his way and then started bobbing up and down his reaction was pure gold!
I was laughing so hard I was almost crying, he kept telling me off and saying not to laugh, especially when the girl in the cart behind us started screaming, I just laughed even harder!!
Gary was almost squealing with delight when it stopped!
The lady operating the ride was also fantastic, even bringing Ida to us, and then gave her an ice cube to cool her down.

Ida sitting on a pebble beach with the sea behind her

The final ride we went on was the dodgems.
Did you know that Billy Butlin’s introduced Britain to the dogems? He was over in America and saw it as part of their funfair and decided he wanted them on his fairground in Britain.
We took Ida over and asked the controller man if he would mind looking after Ida when we got on.
He radioed and got another member of staff to come stand with Ida while we went on the dodgems. We thanked the lady and walked to the back of the queue.
Before we even reached the back the man gestured for us to go to the front and get on first!
We got on with me sitting in the drivers seat and Gary as passenger.
Ida had clocked us and was watching us intently so we gave her a little wave!
Gary gave me great direction and we only had a few collisions!
One being the wall… Gary said turn right, so I did: he meant left… See this is why blind people don’t drive!!

As we got off the man was very friendly, checking I was OK and wishing us a good day.
The lady looking after Ida said that she was watching us intently all the way around!

There are plenty of other activities at the fun fair including a Helter Skelter, a kids pirate ship and another seat in the air ride.
There are also paid rides/ activities you could do including; 2 go kart tracks, a rock climbing wall and an obstacle course with a zippier at the end.
These activities cost £5 a head, and if we hadn’t of run out of time (all the clubs and activities shuts at 5PM), then I would have definitely done the obstacle course and rock climbing!

There was a quiz on at 19:00 that evening so we headed off to dinner very early, straight from the funfair.

Dinner.

For our last evening meal I had an assortment of random food: fish fingers, beef, veg and spaghetti bolognese. Gary had brought me over some chocolate gateau, but when I discovered treacle sponge was on the menu I had to have it…Gary at this point had finished his dinner, and although he was going to grab treacle sponge for Lenny too, as Lenny was waiting for the custard to come out. I insisted he go up and get mine.
The wait was barely 2 minutes so Gary headed off to get our desserts, when he came back, and put them on the table I said to Lenny, oh is this one yours I can smell custard.
No love i’ve got mine right here.
Custardgate ensued…
I was more annoyed because neither Gary or I like custard!!
Poor Gary had to go back up again, and Lenny was left eating 2 portions of treacle sponge and custard!

On our way back to the chalet Ida and I came across a family who asked to say hello to Ida. I got her to sit whilst doing my usual spiel of her being on harness, when the man agreed and said he completely understood, because he and his wife were puppy walkers for Guide dogs!
I was totally excited at this point and asked them a bunch of questions, alongside giving them all my love and thanks, because without puppy walkers giving their own timing patience, blind people like me wouldn’t be in the position we are! 🙂
The man and his wife are not currently puppy walking as they have 2 young boys, with the eldest being 4.
It was so great to meet puppy walkers and hear that they keep in touch with the pup through the Guide dog owner! 🙂

Entertainment.

As our group was so large we split off into 3 separate teams, not that that really mattered, we were sharing a table so were confirming the answers with one another.
We got 10 out of 10 on the music round with thanks to me: I was the only one on our table that got Rude and Magic! I even did a very loud woo when it was announced!
Mostly because Gary played it on repeat for about 6 months, was on the other team to me and frustratingly didn’t know the answer, so I told Mark that my only guess for the artist was Magic, and BOOM I was right!!
Can you tell I like quizzes? 😉
I am also very proud to say that our table of 2 teams, came 2nd and 3rd in the quiz, missing out on a prize of £71.
It would have been nice to win, but I am actually glad we didn’t, the politics that would have come along with it because of certain members of the team would have caused a giant headache!

With it being our last night in the chalet a large group of us congregated in Lenny’s chalet, where lots of alcohol, laughter and jokes were had!

What happens in Butlin’s stays in Butlin’s! 😉

A group of white plastic chairs at night with a light underneath shining up and making them light up

Bye Bye Butlin’s.

All the carbs, alcohol and late nights caught up on just about everyone, lots of us woke up with hangovers, in the case of Gary and I, we had very poorly tummies, Breakfast was a very slow and uncomfortable affair.

I was genuinely worried how we would cope on our journey home.

Gary and I thankfully seemed to bypass the worst of it before we left, thank god!

Gary and I had a fabulous time at Butlin’s, the staff were incredibly polite and friendly, nothing was too much bother.
The neighbours that we had were lovely, and every interaction I had with the public with Ida was also a very pleasant one!
Amazing times were had, lovely people met and lots of wonderful memories were made!
My highlight had to be introducing Ida to the seaside, watching her investigate, learn and explore! 🙂

I will definitely be returning to Butlin’s in the near future, this time I will complete the rock climbing wall and obstacle course, it would also be great to stay in the hotel and compare.
From what i’ve hear the butlers are attentive and the cleaning staff are thorough and make origami with your towels!

Butlin’s is certainly a family fun getaway for any age, and the support received as a disabled person was second to none!

Thank you Butlin’s!

Accessibility 4/5
There is a large set of stairs either side of the stage, it does have a lift. However, on the rat Pack night the lift had broken. Meaning that people had to use the stairs to exit. If I were a full-time wheelchair user I would not be able to exit the building.
However I cannot blame the staff as they went above and beyond to assist people leaving. As a Guide dog owner, it was more than accessible,

Hospitality: 5/5
The staff were all very friendly, welcoming and informative

Quality of service:4/5
I was very pleased with my stay and the service I received when out and about, with special thanks to the fair ground staff.
I would like to have seen for towels in our chalet, instead of two. Most importantly a bath mat to be provided.
Or the website it said that you could order pancakes/omelettes for breakfast, however during our stay this was not offered. Both Gary and I would definitely have liked this option.

Venue Details.

Upper Bognor Rd,
Bognor Regis
PO21 1JJ

Click here to visit Butlins Bognor Regis website.




Adventures At Butlin’s Bognor Regis Part 2

Butlin’s Bognor Regis Part 2

Day 2.

Breakfast is served between 08:30 and 10:00, we met everyone down at the food court at 08:45, apparently our group had been there from the second it had opened and was already on a second/ third helping!
There is a large selection for breakfast including: typical English breakfast, Yoghurt, porridge, cereal, fruit and toast with a selection of jams and marmalades.
I opted for cereal and a cooked breakfast, with lots of tea and fruit juice… Well why not? I was on my holibobs!

Gary and I both feeling rather tired decided to have a chilled morning and go back to the chalet, we may or may not have had a little snooze… Nope nothing at all to do with the late night and alcohol we had consumed the night before!

The Beach.

As the sun was so utterly beautiful we decided to head down to the beach, not even a 5 minute walk from our door to the beach front!
It was so much fun watching Ida attempting to run on pebbles, and not understanding why she kept skidding everywhere!
She was intrigued and nervous in her new environment: growling at the seaweed and jumping back in surprise…

In typical Ida fashion, 5 minutes later she was trying to eat it, and the many pebbles under her feet!!

A stony beach with the sea in the background

Gary managed to coax her down to the sand and shore; after running away the first few times as the waves came in, she then found her footing and bobbed her little paws in and out of the surf.

After a good few hours on the beach we were a little toasty so treated ourselves to a slushy before meandering back to the chalet.

Ida a Black labrador standing on a stony beach with the sea in the background

Dinner.

With dinner being so early at Butlin’s 16:30 to 18:00, our friends were already heading down for their evening meal.

So we decided to join them.
For every evening meal there is a choice of fish, carvery and whatever is on the menu for that particular evening.
I had sausage casserole, new potatoes, mash, veg and chicken pie. Oh and yummy chocolate cake!

According to our brochures the entertainment for the night was The Rat Pack, starting at 21:45, however after speaking with our friends who had been to see the Whitney Houston act, she started at 21:15.
So Gary and I decided to head back to the chalet to chill and get ready for the evening.

Entertainment.

We left our chalet at 21:00 and went in search for our friends.
The Rat Pack were already playing when we arrived, and we searched in earnest for our friends for a good 15 minutes before getting a hold of them and asking where they were.
Turns out they were back by the entrance … we had managed to walk right past them!

We were sat far enough away from the stage and speakers that if we talked loud enough we could hear each other, , perfect for a bunch of blindy’s like us!

The Rat Pack were truly fantastic. singing as a group as well as doing brilliant solo performances, even staying in character and speaking in a New York accent when addressing the audience.
I loved that they performed as if they were the real Rat Pack, Sammy Davis Jr tap dancing and singing the famous Bo Jangles.
The act finished with a audience participation of New York New York, a firm favorite on our table!

Although there was further entertainment for the last hour of the evening for adults only, none of our group fancied sticking around so we headed back to our chalets to continue our own little party!
Needless to say that it was another night full of laughter and alcohol!




Day 3.

Each day got hotter and hotter, we definitely struck it lucky with the weather.
We had been at Butlin’s over 24 hours and Ida was getting the swing of where she was going.
We got lots of comments from the public, including a lot of parents educating their children on not touching working dogs, and what Guide Dogs were for.
It made my heart melt every time we passed a young child or toddler exclaiming; doggy!

Breakfast.

For breakfast I decided to have a cooked breakfast, and even managed to fit in some boiled egg on toast!

On the way back Gary, Lenny and I discussed how disability friendly the staff and site were for people with disabilities.
The paths although not tarmac smooth were flat as much as they could be allowing those in wheelchairs, or those with impaired walking to get around with as much ease as a person with a disability can manage.
It was also great to see that there were so many families and carers enjoying themselves too.
Butlin’s really does cater for all ages, and fantastically supportive for people with disabilities! 🙂

Beach Fun.

After chilling in the chalet for a few hours we decided to head down to the beach once again, mostly because we wanted doughnuts, did I mention we were on holiday? 😉

A stony beach with the sea in the background

Along the beach front there is a selection of kiosks selling everything from many flavoured ice-creams to slushies to doughnuts.
There was also a dog drink station and a few pieces of gym beach workouts in the form of pull up bars, and tricep dips.
Gary and I both gave the tricep dips a go and failed miserably at life!
There is also a pub at the end of the beach front but we didn’t visit.

Deciding that it was doughnut time we headed back down walking past the shuttle train on the way, Gary and a little boy gave a thumbs up to one another as they passed us.

A long Blue beach train with a quite scary red lipped one tooth smile

The back end of a long blue beach train

Ida and I were sitting down in the seated area when a lady and her son came over to us and asked if they could say hello to Ida.
I made Ida sit and explained that when on harness a Guide Dog is working and I don’t usually let people say hello to her when she is working.
At the same time the lady echoed my little speech and said that she sponsors Guide Dogs.
She said that she and her son wanted to come say hello as they have never met a working guide Dog in all the time she has been sponsoring them.
She asked me how long we have been a partnership and has it made a difference? I started gushing about how much Ida has changed my life for the better and given me my confidence back, at this point the lady turned to her son and kindly said; that’s great to hear, and exactly why we donate.
She was a genuinely lovely lady and I thanked her for sponsoring Guide Dogs. 🙂

After consuming our delicious doughnuts and refreshing slushy we finally headed onto the beach itself, all the while Ida pulling like a mad thing and being very disobedient!
I had to give her a very stern telling off, and she settled down.
Clearly she loves the beach as much as I do!

Gary and I were keen to dip our feet in the sea, and encouraged Ida to join us… Gary threw a stone into the water and Ida chased it! She’s such a daft dog!

Ida running towards the sea on a stony beach

It was so relaxing standing in the surf and having the surf crash at our feet, what made the moment even more special was Ida running in and out of the water, splashing and kicking up sand as she ran along the waters edge.

Evening.

On our way to dinner there were a lot more “doggy” comments, and this time it was followed up by “yes, that’s a very special doggy. It’s a blind dog!”
Gary and I couldn’t help but laugh, I don’t think Ida would be much use to me if she was blind also!

Dinner.

You can tell it’s buffet style because when Gary brought my plate to me I had a selection of different foods: hunters chicken, chicken wrapped in cheese, meatballs with pasta, veg and new potatoes… Seriously what is up with this boy and getting me new potatoes everyday? I don’t even really like them that much!

Entertainment.

The evening entertainment on the centre stage was soul night; this was the night I was most looking forward to.
I am a huge fan of soul and mouton, that if they weren’t mostly about break ups and heartbreak I would have to have them play at my wedding!

The guy’s’ voice was brilliant, and no wonder; he was the voice coach for the X Factor, and now The Voice.After a bit of name dropping he carried on with the set.
One of the women vocalists did a beautiful rendition of a Jackson 5 song.It was truly amazing.
Apart from sitting in silence and absorbing that particular song, our entire table were dancing in our seats and singing away merrily to every song they performed.
For entertainment purposes I just wished their set was longer than 45 minutes!

You could definitely tell that the partying and late nights were catching up on us because we all headed back to our respective chalets and crashed out for the evening.
It was nice to have a night in cuddled up on the sofa watching TV with Gary.

You can find part 3 here.




Adventures at Butlin’s Bognor Regis

Butlin’s

Billy Butlin’s was an entrepreneur who created the British iconic holiday parks for family’s to have an affordable UK break, now commonly known as a staycation .
Butlin’s Skegness opened on the 11th April 1936 and was officially opened by Amy Johnson; the first woman to fly solo from England to Australia.
Billy’s dream was to create a place for family’s to eat, sleep and be entertained which was also situated close to a beach.
There are now 3 sites: Skegness, Bognor Regis and Minehead, welcoming millions of families each year.
Some of the most widely known comedians, actors, singers, dancers and double acts have found fame because of Butlin’s.
Laurel and Hardy, The Drifters, The Foundations,Dez o’Connor, Cliff Richard and Ringo Star to name but a few!

A group of us had booked our 4 night stay months in advance, and having never been to Butlin’s before I was really keen to go.

A few days before we left I went on the website to see what we could do when we were there.
Clearly geared towards family I was blown over by the sheer amount of activities there were to do, which were all included as part of your holiday costs!
I was also happy with the accessibility of the website. The mobile version is not very compatible with screen readers, but after switching to desktop mode, I had no further issues. I flicked through page after page with ease and eager anticipation for the Butlin’s holiday ahead!

Our destination was Bognor Regis in West Sussex, situated between Brighton and Portsmouth. This was ideal for us as it was only a 2 and 1/2 hour drive.

Arrival.

The first thing Gary noticed was the giant millennium dome, meaning everything was under cover. Perfect for the unpredictable British weather!
The majority of our friends were there already and had checked in, so we headed to the Oyster Bay reception to ask for directions.
The staff were friendly and extremely helpful, and ended up giving us verbal directions to our chalet as they had run out of maps.

Our Chalet.

Being visually impaired and having a Guide Dog, we were given a ground floor chalet which conveniently had a large grass area, and bins right outside our door.
The chalet itself had a living room area complete with two sofas, a television and coffee table.
A dinning table and chairs were immediately on our right as we entered.

4 person table, two leather two seater sofas and a small tv

The kitchen was fitted with a fridge freezer, cooker, microwave and kettle.
I was pleasantly surprised to find that tea, coffee and sugar had been provided along with cutlery and crockery; perfect for a group who wanted to self cater.

Kitchen with microwave, kettle, toaster and cooker

Our bedroom was a decent size; homing a double bed, 2 bedside tables, a set of drawers, wardrobe and a desk and chair with a mirror above it.
The only criticism i would have would be for the bathroom, the toilet cistern took about 10 minutes to fill up, the shower cubicle was quite small, and didn’t drain quick enough so your feet would be in a bath of water, and having no window meant that the bathroom would be completely steamed up. On day 3 Gary found an extractor fan but it didn’t really live up to it’s name.
Possibly the most annoying of all was that there was no bathmat, meaning that the floor became soaked as you exited the shower or you had to use your own towel to mop up the mess.

A double Bed with white bed sheets and green feature wall

Wardrobe and window with the bed at the bottom

Dressing table and the door

Food.

As we wanted our holiday to be as easy-going as possible we paid for breakfast and dinner buffet style as part of our package.

After dropping our bags off we headed down to dinner to meet up with the rest of the party.
Not before going to the wrong restaurant and getting turned away because we hadn’t paid for that meal package!

We opted for the cheap and cheerful option and we dinned in the Coral Beach restaurant for the entirety of our stay.

As it is a buffet style food court you can go up as many times as you wanted.
I was very happy to find out that hot and cold drinks were part of the package and unlimited, the only drinks you would have to pay for would be fizzy drinks or alcohol.
Because the food court was so busy Gary offered to go up and get me an assortment of foods : chicken, new potatoes, veg, gammon and minted beef, not forgetting the lovely slice of cake for pudding.

Entertainment.

There are 2 main stages at Bognor Regis Butlin’s:Reds and Center Stage.
On our first evening the entertainment on the center stage would be Whitney Houston in concert, Ive always loved Whitney Houston so I was keen to go along. According to our brochure we got with our check n details it said that the performer would not be on stage until 21:45 meaning we had plenty of time to have a wander around.

We went into the local shop which was full of everything you could need for a self catered holiday.
However having the luxury of Gary driving we decided to head off to the local supermarket, less than a mile away.
We stocked up on the essentials; alcohol and coconut scented toilet roll!

Arriving back on to the parks premises Gary noticed that there was a closer entrance to our chalet, so we politely asked if he could drop myself, Ida, Lenny and Dillon off and then park the car back in the Oyster Bay car park.
The man on the gate was very accommodating, letting us through and saying he would give the heads up to his colleague on the other gate.

2 blind people, 2 Guide Dogs, a crate of beer, box of wine and a carrier bag full of other things made the much shorter walk a whole lot easier… See having a disability has it’s perks! 😉




By the time we got back to the chalet it was time to head off for the evening entertainment.
By this point neither Gary nor Lenny fancied it, so we headed next door to Lenny’s chalet for a quiet night.
Phyllis, Lenny’s chalet mate had returned from the entertainment saying she wasn’t in the mood.
The 4 of us stayed in chatting, drinking and laughing until 2Am in the morning!

You can find part 2 here.

Review: we all deserve to look and feel LUSHcious

I’m a big fan of Lush; their products and ethicacy is the reason I return time and time again.
Not so much of the scent of the shop; it assaults your nostrils even when you are in a 3 metre radius of the place…
But individually I love the products. I have received many a product as birthday/ Christmas gifts, over the years and given them out in return!
Lush is a firm favourite of mine and my friends. And i’m excited to say I have some lovely products ahead that I have reviewed. 🙂

*Disclosure: I apologise for the photos.. I got far too excited about trying out the products that I forgot to take pictures beforehand… I’m a terrible blogger!
Lush Review.

Godiva Shampoo Bar.

Lush Description: “There’s no need to be modest about having great hair once you’ve used this – you’ll want to parade around town. Godiva cleans and conditions with a host of nut oils and butters, and then leaves a heady, lingering scent of jasmine on your newly-glossy tresses. It’s stuffed with butters and oils to condition, moisturise and soften the hair: cocoa butter, cupuaçu butter, shea butter, camellia oil, organic macadamia nut oil and extra virgin coconut oil”

Looking at the bar you don’t expect it to be as half as good as it is.
When I was at the Lush shop the fabulous manager explained the shampoo bar’s properties and how well it cleaned and nourished your hair.
I was skeptical at first, mostly because i’m a liquid shampoo kinda girl, but I gave it a go and I was happily surprised.
The bar lathers well and you only need to roll it around in your hand once or twice to get a decent amount for shoulder length hair.
I left it in my hair for a good 5 minutes while I continued the rest of my shower routine. By the time I rinsed it off my hair was already feeling silky ; the oils and butters in the bar is what conditions your hair. The after affect was even better, once I had combed and blow dried my hair.
The scent of the jasmine isn’t too powerful, which is good for me as it’s not my favourite scent.
The bar will last around 6 months and in my opinion its great for when you are travelling because you don’t have to worry about liquid luggage restrictions. 🙂

Round shaped bar,in banana yellow colour palm sized.

 

Tender Is The Night Massage Bar.

Lush Description: “A sensual massage bar filled with romantic essential oils. Shea and murumuru butters are specially blended to melt easily onto the skin to allow a smooth massage. As well as helping the bar glide, they also help to lock in moisture. As the bar warms and softens, it releases the heady blend of ylang ylang oil, Fair Trade vanilla absolute, and jasmine absolute.”

I’m a big fan of this massage bar, not only the does it smell great, but with it having a tactile flower o the right hand side of the bar, being blind I love distinguishable features, and a pretty pink flower does the trick.
I used the massage bar like a solid lotion applying it directly to my skin with a few firm strokes, and rubbing the residue into my skin.
As I was rubbing it in I could feel my skin getting smoother. I was also happy to discover that I didn’t need to apply moisturiser to my body after the shower because the butter within the bar had done it for me!

At a separate time I chose to break some of the bar up and crumble it into my bath, it took a long time to dissolve, which is a good thing as it’s not made as a bath bomb, but again I left the bath feeling soft and moisturised all over. 🙂

Oval shaped bar, cream coloured with barbie pink flower on right hand side,this is also tactile.. It is Palm with but height just larger than palm size.

Maypole Soap.

Lush Description: “If this soap had feathers and smelled like painted canvas, then we’d suggest you only use it to wash your favourite ice cream. Sometimes things don’t need to make sense; like this addictive peppermint soap, threaded with our own soap noodles to create a stick of whimsy. Support Keep It In The Ground with this MPG free soap base created from glycerine and sorbitol whilst you dance around the Maypole and enter a surreal world of nutty mintitude.”

This is possibly one of my favourite Lush items. I have a major love for the smell of mint, and adding in the sticky sweetness of the maple syrup it gives the air a minty sweet kick. It smells so good, I just want to eat it!
The soap itself creates lots of lather and leaves my skin feeling soft and not dry, which unfortunately is the case with my skin and most soaps.
If you are a fan of mint, I would highly suggest you go out and buy some!

Slightly larger than palm size, shrimp pink colour outer rim with lime green marble effect centre.

Salted Coconut Hand Scrub.

Lush Description: “Superbly soft skin and scrubbing go hand in hand. This creamy coconut and sea salt exfoliator is the perfect way to keep your paws in tiptop condition. Apply a generous dollop to wet hands and scrub all over or use when your hands are dry for a rougher cleanse. Sea salt is a wonderful natural exfoliant, packed full of restorative minerals to cleanse and treat the skin, whilst coconut oil deeply hydrates without making your hands sticky. Those who love the sweet smell of the outdoors will love to get stuck into this scrub – fragranced with the smell of sweet gorse.”

I will admit that when I first had a nosey at the coconut hand scrub, i wasn’t particularly keen on the sea salt part. I have a weird thing about my hands being dirty, the feeling of applying suncream when you are on the beach and all the sand gets scrubbed into your skin makes me very unhappy and uneasy, and this was exactly what came to mind when I applied a little bit to the back of my hand.
I have since used it when I am near a sink so I can give my hands a thorough wash after application.
I use the coconut scrub when my hands need a proper pick-me-up or when my hands get overly dry. Having eczema and seasonal changes means this happens frequently.
The scrub definitely does what it says on the tin and i’m always left stroking my wonderfully soft baby smooth hands every time i use it.

Palm sized black pot light beige colour cream.
Rough to the touch because of the salts.

Left hand pot is salted Coconut hand scrub, Centre pot Love and Light Hand Cream, Right pot African Paradise Body Conditioner. Lush Description:

African Paradise Body Conditioner

Black palm sized pot with light chocolate coloured cream.

Love And Light Hand Cream.

lush description: “I’ll follow thee and make a heaven of hell,
To hydrate the hand I love so well.”
If the washing up is making you consider extreme hand preservation measures, let a little Love And Light into your life. This softening neroli and Fair Trade organic cocoa butter cream will make light work of moisturising your hands, so keep it within reach when dryness strikes.

I’ve never been one for hand cream, I have always felt that they have left my hands greasy and sticky, or sometimes both. So I did think that the Love and Light hand cream would be the same. But boy I was surprised; not only is the cream thick that you only need a minimal amount, but it soaks into my hands beautifully leaving them baby soft, delicate and smelling gorgeous!
I am happy to say I am now a hand cream convert! 🙂

Black palm sized pot with cream coloured cream.

9-5 Cleansing Lotion.

Lush Description: “Take the day off and brighten the skin with this almond oil and dove orchid cleansing milk, to soothe and moisturise. This is a loose emulsion with an exquisite blend of floral essential oils to brighten the skin, removing all dirt and makeup. We use dove orchid for its soothing properties, and almond oil to make your skin feel refreshed after a hard day.”

I’ve always been a make up wipe remover type so I was concerned about the time and effort I would have to go to to remove my make-up and then having to wash my face 2 or 3 times just to get rid of the remaining make up/ greasy feeling.
Although it was a lot to do with laziness on my part, I was also concerned about the cream irritating my eyes or face, as mentioned above I have eczema, and I also have very sensitive skin, so I was dubious I would wake up with a blotchy face the next again morning.
Imagine my surprise when not only did 9-5 cleanser removed my make up without the need for a facecloth or water but it left my skin feeling hydrated and clear the next again day.
Of course i’m no dermatologist but if like me you have dry and sensitive skin, this is definitely the cleanser for you. Even better is that a little. goes a long way! 🙂

The one thing I would say is that although I was wearing a full face of make up, I am not one to apply it heavily, and i also do not use waterproof mascara. So for those of you that do, you may need to apply more cleanser, or use the assistance of a facecloth and warm water.

Left bottle shows comforter shower cream pink liquid in a bottle, Middle bottle Beautiful shower gel with honey coloured cream, 9-5 Cleansing lotion with white coloured cream

The Comforter Shower Cream.

Lush Description: “This berrylicious, reassuring shower cream brings to mind warm, familiar memories. The blend of sweet cassis absolute, uplifting bergamot and assuring cypress essential oils create a blackcurranty aroma that’s like being wrapped in a snug hug.”

What can I say about the comforter shower cream? Firstly it smells absolutely delicious! It almost makes my mouth water every time i smell it, yes, I am a weirdo!
I wouldn’t exactly say that it feels like I was wrapped in a snug hug after I used it, but I definitely felt fresh and energised to start the day after my shower. And technically that could be a lot to do with the shower itself, but hey, the comforter is great and I smell frutilicious for the rest of the morning. So really, what’s not to love? 🙂

95g bottle in raspberry pink colour cream.

 

 

 

beautiful Shower Gel.

 

Lush Description:

“If you feel anything less than a vision of loveliness in the morning, this peachy keen shower gel is the one for you. A blend of warming and exotic myrrh resinoid brings a sensual musk to the sunny perfume of fresh peach juice and dried apricots, and feels sensationally soft on the skin. Adorn yourself in the rich, creamy lather of this warm, floral tonic to feel gorgeous, inside and out. 1000 kisses from us to you…”

The first thing I noticed with Beautiful is how thick it’s consistency is compared to other Lush shower gels I have used.It was kind of gloopy to apply but thankfully it lathered up and soaked into the skin nicely.From the second you open the bottle the sweetness hits you, the blend of peach and apricot is a scent I have not come across before but I was pleasantly surprised.
Although I could still smell Beautiful on my skin if I lifted my hand to my nose, it’s not an overly powerful scent. Personally for me because of the sweetness I prefer it that way.

100g bottle with honey coloured cream

Gorgeous Moisturiser.

Lush Description: “A light but highly effective face cream. We’ve filled this with freshly-juiced fruits, cold-pressed and organic oils to leave your skin feeling like velvet. Made fresh in small batches, we’ve used fresh pineapples, which contain enzymes to refine pores, fresh organic lemon and orange juices encouraging the skin to stay matte and to help remove dead skin cells, and orange blossom honey water to soothe and moisturise.”

Gorgeous definitely lives up to it’s name in the way it makes your face feel and look. Since using Gorgeous my dry skin has improved dramatically and it leaves my face with a healthy glow.
I’ve been using the sample pot daily since I opened it, and feel it’s perfect for on-the-go moisturising as well as a great matte base for your foundation.
I’m glad I got a sample of this because at the price of £42.50 for 45g, I wouldn’t have given it a second look.
My skin is very important to me, and I love that Lush use natural products that are then handmade, but i’ve picked up moisturisers over the years for a quarter of the price and less, that have made my skin feel just as great.
However it is definitely an extravagant purchase I would consider buying if ever I wanted to treat myself.

Solid Sample Perfumes.

These are metal pots containing 10g of the solid perfume each.

Kerbside Violet.

 

Lush Description: “Soft, green shoots entwined with heavy concrete – a romance of earth and stone imagined in sweet, green hues. Sweet violets border the kerbs; tenacious in their delicacy, earnest little faces fragile enough to crush underfoot. Look closer. See how the petals flush with colour and dew hangs at the throat of each bud. See how the violets spread, mycellium-like, through an urban jungle, adorning avenues of gravel and brick with purple plumage. A tentative springtime imagined in perfume, still tempered by morning frosts, but with the promise of summer to come.”

Opening the metal pot I was transported back to my childhood and eating the palma violet sweets. Although I enjoyed the journey the scent took me on, I found it far too sweet and overpowering to actually wear.
Maybe if I tried the spray perfume I may feel differently, but for me it’s not a perfume I would wear again.
10g sized metal pot with violet coloured wax.

Sun.

Lush Description: “A simple, optimistic citrus cologne-strength fragrance. A ray of sunshine in the depths of winter. Fizzy sweet orange and mimosa burst over sandalwood to put a smile on your face and a spring in your step. For those moments when you need to lift your spirits.”

The fresh citrus scent hits you as you first open the metal lid which I loved, however after applying it I found the spiciness of the sandalwood overpowering, and made me feel like i was a man in his 70’s recapturing his youth.
I would like to test the spray on my skin to see if the aroma of orange counteracts the spiced notes.
I gave this to a friend who fell in love with the scent immediately, it’s true that we all have different tastes. 🙂

10g metal pot dull pineapple coloured wax.

Vanillary.

 

Lush Description: “A sweet, yet sophisticated vanilla fragrance. A blend of vanilla absolute with tonka and added a hint of jasmine for a reassuring, powdered caramel perfume. Vanillary settles on the skin for a long-lasting warmth that is difficult to resist.”

For a perfume, and a solid one at that, vanillary was definitely my favourite perfume out of the 3. I’m a big fan of vanilla, whether that be a candle, cake or perfume, and i’m happy to say it smelt good on my skin and was long lasting, I even received a few compliments wearing it.
This would definitely be a spray perfume I would purchase in the future.

Vanillary is a 10g metal pot with light coffee coloured wax.

Are you a keen Lush buyer?
Have you bought or used any of the products i’ve listed? If so, what were your thoughts?

Leave me a comment, i’d love to know! 🙂

***I was gifted these products for my honest review. All thoughts, opinions and dodgy photography is all my own!

Much love, Sassy x

Disability Q&A #17 Elin

welcome back ladies and gentlemen to my #DisabilityQ&A Series. Today we have the lovely Elin sharing her story with you.
We met on Twitter and I love reading her blog, so much positivity and great Beauty posts.
Now over to you Elon! 🙂

Tell me about yourself:

My name is Elin, I’m 18 years old and I live in the UK. I am currently working as a Trainee Community development assistant for the RNIB/Action for blind people and I really enjoy my job, I love working within the sight loss field. I have 2 main hobbies, one being music, I play a number of instruments including the piano, harp and guitar and I also like to compose my own songs every once in a while. Another hobby of mine is blogging, it’s a huge passion of mine as I love writing but I also like to share my interest in beauty and fashion with the online community whilst also attempting to raise awareness of visual impairment along with other disabilities in the hope of changing people’s perceptions of disability.

Now we know the basics, can we learn a bit more about you?

What is the medical reason you have a disability?

I have two disabilities the main one being my visual impairment, I have a condition called Retinitis Pigmentosa (RP) and I am registered blind Severely sight impaired.
I also have a disability known as Chronic fatigue syndrom/M.E.

Have you had your Visual impairment / disability from birth?
I was diagnosed with RP when I was 6 years old and I was diagnosed with Chronic fatigue when I was 15.

Which terminology do you prefer: Partially Sighted, Visually Impaired,
Sight Impaired, Severely Sight Impaired or Blind?

Visually impaired or Severely sight impaired.

Do you have a cane, Guide Dog or neither?

I have a cane and I’m currently on the waiting list for a guide dog.

If you could extinguish your disability, would you? – If not, please
explain why.

I think I would.

For those who do not know much about your VI what can you see?

My vision is blurry but I can see some things. I am able to read large print on good days, I can see movements and I can also see objects when they’re not to close or not to far away from me.

How has your disability effected you?
Socially

It has affected me in A number of ways socially, I’ve felt socially excluded at times and I often feel isolated. As I can’t see people’s faces I can’t go up to someone and start a conversation and this is something that has affected me a lot. My Chronic fatigue has also stopped me from going out at times because I’ve been to tired therefore I’ve missed out on social events which has again made me feel isolated.

Physically

Chronic fatigue syndrom results in severe tiredness and weakness and can also make me feel very light headed meaning I sometimes can’t complete certain tasks because I’ve been too physically drained to do them.

Mentally

My disabilities can make me feel very low but I have learnt to maintain a positive outlook on life. Although I do have my down days I find it’s easier to deal with them as i grow older.




Do you think your disability has made you who you are today?

Yes definitely! I would be a completely different person without my disability, it’s helped me in so many ways and helped me to be a positive person. I don’t judge people, or I try not to, because I know what it feels like to be judged and it’s definitely not a nice feeling.

Is there a particular question you get asked often because of your
disability? If so, please explain below.

“How much vision do you actually have?” – when I tell people that I am registered blind/severely sight impaired some assume that I have no vision at all so when I explain that I do have some remaining vision they are curious as to how much I actually have.

What are the positives of having a disability?

In my opinion there are a number of positives, meeting fellow disabled people is a great positive as you can relate to those people and become really good friends.
Another positive is that you can help and inspire others who have a disability and make them realise that their is a positive side to everything, I love helping and motivating other people.

What are the negatives of having a disability?

Being treated differently within society and not being able to see certain things that sighted people take for granted.

What would you say is a difficulty for you being VI / disabled?

Not being able to go anywhere on my own without learning the routes, having to depend on other people if I want to go places. Not being able to do certain things if I’m too tired or weak to do them.

As a person with a disability, what are the things you face on a daily /
weekly basis that frustrate you? *In your home

Not being able to find things sometimes for example if they’ve been moved.

*outside your home

Not being able to go somewhere spontaneously on my own, I can’t just hop on a train whenever I want to because I would have to have someone with me. Also not being able to go to unfamiliar places on my own because I wouldn’t know my way around and I wouldn’t be able to see to find my way around.

Are there any tips or tricks you use in daily life you’d like to pass
on to another VI/ disabled person?

Label your make-up products with braille labels or with a penfriend, it makes finding the products you want to use a whole lot easier.
Keeping your clothes either colour co-ordinated or together depending on what they are.
E.G. keeping t-shirts together, dresses together etc.

Do you use Assisstive technology in your daily living?

I use a lot of assistive technology, I love Apple products because of the accessibility so I use VoiceOver and the zoom on my phone and laptop. I also use ZoomText at work which is a screen magnifier and reader.
I also use a number of accessible apps such as Tap Tap See, NantMobile Money reader, TextDetective, Overdrive and a number of others.

I also use a liquid level Indicator from time to time.

What piece of advice would you give to someone newly diagnosed? Or going
through a deterioration in vision / or mobility?

It’s hard, I know it is from personal experience but just know that you’re not alone. Living with a disability isn’t easy but you shouldn’t let it stop you from doing the things you love in life. If you feel like you’re struggling then it might be best to talk to someone, don’t struggle on your own, talking always helps. Don’t let your disability define you and don’t let it be a barrier,
I always say ‘no matter who you are, you can live a life without limits’.

Any advice you’d like to give to a person with sight / no disabilities?

Don’t judge people with disabilites, we’re not different to anyone else in this world.
Also, don’t assume that we disabled people need help because most of the time we might not need it and can feel a sense of discrimination if people assume that we can’t do things for ourselves. Even though we know you mean well and we appreciate any support it’s always best to ask before assuming that we need help.

Did you seek out any specialist services / charities to help you and your
family deal with your situation?

My family and I haven’t used a lot of services for help but we have gained support from the Amber Trust, VICTA and the RNIB which we are very thankful for.




Where can people find you out in the world?

Blog : https://myblurredworld13.wordpress.com

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Twitter : @myblurredworld

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Email : myblurredworld@gmail.com

❤❤ Thank you so much for taking the time to be interviewed! I love and appreciate your honesty, sharing your thoughts that life can be tough, difficult and stressful but with the right support, determination and positive mindset you can achieve what you want to!
I also love that you have listed some of the technology that you use, and how to keep things organised! I’m sure lots of people will find this very useful! ❤❤

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Is Your Tiredness A Sign Of Something Serious?

Being tired is perfectly normal in some situations. For example, if you’ve been burning the midnight oil to meet a deadline at work and stay up way past your bedtime, it is a given that you will wake up feeling very sleepy the next morning. And you might have to deal with that tiredness throughout the whole day! Similarly, if you are particularly busy or take part in some very strenuous exercise in the morning, then your energy levels will probably drop, and you will feel quite lethargic in the afternoon.

However, if you are constantly tired without any real reason for feeling that way, it could be a sign or symptom of a much more serious condition. Worried that your lethargy and sleepiness could mean you are ill? Read on to find out more!

Young lady lying in bed with white sheets and bedding

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Depression

Tiredness is a symptom of regular depression, and bipolar depression. But what is bipolar depression exactly? It is similar to regular depression and most patients feel the same feelings of sadness and uninterest in the world. However, there are some other symptoms that can help differentiate between these two depressions. For instance, those who are bipolar suffer from mood swings and sometimes even psychosis. If this sounds like you, it is important you see a medical professional very soon.




Anemia

If you feel run down and generally under the weather alongside your tiredness, then the most probable explanation is that you are suffering from anemia. This is when you haven’t been getting enough iron in your diet and end up with a deficiency. It is most common in women, especially those who have been through the menopause. It is easily treated with iron tablets.

Diabetes

There are various symptoms of diabetes, and constant tiredness is one of them. Diabetes occurs when there is too much sugar in the blood or when there is not enough insulin being produced to control blood sugar levels. Other symptoms include a constant feeling of thirst and sudden weight loss.

Glandular Fever

Glandular fever is a viral infection and most commonly seen in young, teenage girls. The main symptoms include a sore throat, swollen glands, and high fever, but most patients also complain about tiredness as well. Even though most of the symptoms will go after four weeks, the tiredness can often affect the sufferer for at least a couple of months.

Coeliac Disease

Some people are unable to eat any form of gluten as they have coeliac disease. When coeliacs accidentally eat some gluten – found in foods such as bread, cereals, and pasta – then their body reacts badly, much like an allergic reaction. Tiredness is one of the most noticeable symptoms, alongside diarrhea and weight loss. There is also often a feeling of discomfort after eating any ingredients that contain traces of gluten.

As you can see, your body might be trying to tell you that your tiredness is a sign of an underlying condition. Think you are suffering from a serious condition? Then it’s a good idea to see your doctor as soon as possible!




Mental Illness: Seeking Help

Mental illness will affect almost everyone reading this post at some point. That could mean you develop a condition like depression, or it could mean someone close to you goes through that experience. Whatever the situation, you’ll want to know how to overcome the issue and get back to normal. While medication is the right course of action for some people, most of us just need to apply some self-help. With that in mind, you should consider some of the methods mentioned below. At the end of the day, drugging yourself doesn’t solve the problem. It just stops you from caring about it quite as much.

Clinic Counselling Session

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*Picture showing a counseling session in a clinic between two women.*

  • Try talking therapies

Sometimes you just need to spend time talking to an expert to overcome mental health issues. That is often the case if you suffer depression or anxiety. You might have bottled everything up for years because you can’t ask your friends for help. However, there are plenty of professionals willing to listen to anything you have to say. Considering that, ask your doctor for recommendations for local therapists. You’ll have to pay for their services, but it’s worth the expensive in many instances. Once you’ve worked through your issues, it’s much easier to recover and become a happy thinker again.

  • Get yourself a life coach

There is a misconception out there about life coaches. Most people think their services are only suitable for rich people. That couldn’t be further from the truth. There are plenty of experts in that profession that don’t charge the earth for their advice. A life coach will consider all your problems before designing a plan of action. They’ll uncover the reasons you feel down at the moment, and then try to counteract them. If you’ve tried everything else, you have nothing to lose. Just search online for suitable professionals and then read reviews. That way, you can sort the wheat from the chaff and ensure you’re dealing with someone with a good track record.

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*A young couple sitting on a pier overlooking a lake where two ducks are swimming.*

  • Improve your existence

It might sound obvious, but most people seem to forget they can make positive changes without assistance. With that in mind, you should sit down with a pen and paper and work out what you don’t like about your life. You can then come up with a strategy for altering all those elements. If you hate your job, you need to retrain and look for something new. If you spend every evening feeling lonely, you should register on some dating websites. It’s not rocket science, and you could feel better instantly. You just need to take control of the situation.

Using the advice from this article, anyone with a common mental illness could improve their lives. You can’t sit around feeling down and expecting things to get better on their own. You need to take decisive action if you want to recover. Of course, medication can help some people to get their head in the right place. Just make sure you use the techniques mentioned on this page alongside any antidepressant drugs. Otherwise, you’re just prolonging the agony.

Blind Girl Hacks: How To Apply Your Make Up

Blind Girl Hacks: How To Apply Your Make Up.

The base:

Exfoliate

You should exfoliate your face once a week to keep your skin soft as well as ensuring there are no dead skin cells flaking when you apply moisturiser.

You can use specific scrubs that work with your skin tone. It is really important to use facial scrubs that work with your skin tone as it will help decrease skin irritation and spots.

Moisturise.

Once you have exfoliated your face and neck, gently pat your face dry with a clean towel.

Start by dabbing a pea sized amount of moisturiser to your forehead, cheeks, chin and neck.
Using your fingers rub the cream into your face in circular motions, making sure to cover your eyelids, nose and cupids bow. (The skin between your nose and top lip.)

If your face feels dry or the amount of cream used was not enough, apply more.

A ladies hand holding a glass jar of white moisturiser

Face:

Primer.

A primer is the base for your make up. Primer has a sticking agent in it called glyserine which is the base for your make up, it ensures your make up will last all day.
You can buy them as a spray or as a liquid which you apply by hand or with a brush.If you are not using a spray bottle, dot primer on your face as you would apply moisturiser. However do not rub it fully into the skin, leave it so it feels wet and slightly sticky to touch, this is called tacky. Doing this will allow your foundation to stay in place.

Smashbox primer

 

Foundation

 

There are 3 main types of foundation; liquid, mousse and powder.

Liquid: For those with dry skin.

Using the nozzle press down once onto the back of your hand. This should be enough to cover your face and neck.

Dip the tip of your foundation brush into the liquid,
Dot it around your face. 2 dots for your forehead and cheeks and 1 for your nose and chin.
Begin by using a stippling circular motion starting at the nose then move to the cheeks, chin and forehead.
Blend out to the edges of your face using short quick strokes in the same direction
Blend the edges using the stippling motion to blend along the hairline, jawline and ears.

Mousse: Mousse foundation is for normal skin.
This is a sort of thick cream. and is best applied using your fingers.

Using your index and middle finger gently scoop out the foundation. Mousse spreads far so a small amount will go a long way.
Dot your face using your two fingers2 dabs on the cheeks and forehead and 1 dab on the nose and chin.

Starting from the edge of your nose use your fingers to rub the foundation in circular motions.
Using your fingers ensures you cover your face completely and smoothly.
Continue with circular motions blending into your hairline, jawline and ears.

Powder:
For oily or combination skin.

Use a fluffy powder brush or buffing brush to apply your powder foundation.
Put the brush into the powder and swirl around 2 or 3 times.
Tap off the excess powder using the side of the compact.
From the center of your face swirl the brush in circular motions,
Blend outwards, if needs be count how many brush strokes you used to cover one side of your face and repeat on the other side.
Blend into the hairline, jawline and ears using circular motions.

Concealer:

Concealer is a way of highlighting the face and getting rid of dark circles and blemishes.
For dark under eye circles use a concealer that is 1 or 2 shades lighter than your foundation
If you have a lighter complexion use salmon tones

For blemishes or discolouration use a green or yellow concealer.
Make sure you are using the right concealer for your skin tone.
Starting from the bridge of your nosed finishing at the outer corner of your eye, draw and upside down triangle with the point finishing just above your lower eye socket.
Blend the concealer in by Gently patting the area; using your ring finger. This is your weakest finger and will not damage the delicate skin under your eyes.

If you have deep set eyes make sure to work the concealer up into the inside of your nose.This area is often missed and can leave you looking sleepy.

For a more natural daytime look and you just want to cover up your dark circles, use a lightweight concealer with a slight colour cancelling undertone. Dot the concealer and gently blend as mentioned above.
You can also use a brush to apply the concealer.

 

A conceler palette ranging from light white colours at the top to dark brown colours at the bottom

Blemishes:

Dab the concealer softly on the top of each blemish and around the blemish itself.
Blend out softly using a clean brush or cotton bud. .

Highlight and Contour.

Highlight

Highlighter makes your face look brighter,, more awake and gives you a glowy look.

You can use this alongside contouring or add a bit of bronzerto create a shimmery effect.
Draw a much smaller triangle between your brows with the base finishing where the eyebrows meet.

Draw a small line just under your eyebrow bone but but above the crease in your eyelid. This gives the illusion of larger eyes.

Draw a small line in the centre of your cheek.

Draw a small line along the bridge of your nose. This is where the light naturally hits your face but it also helps your nose look thinner, especially if you contour the sides of your nose.
Apply a thin line starting from the centre of your ear coming down diagonally towards the centre of your eye socket.
Apply a tiny amount of your highlighter to your cupids bow to make your lipstick look sharp.

 

Blusher

Blusher gives your face a healthy glow, making you look younger and more alive.
There are different types of blushers that come in several bright colours. Make sure you use colours that suit your skin tone and complexion.
To make your blush look most natural match the blusher with the type of foundation that you use.
For example if you use liquid foundation use a cream blusher.

There are 2 main places to apply blusher; the apples of your cheeks and your cheekbones.

Apples:
To find the apples of your cheeks smile, they are just beneath your eyes where your cheeks bulge. Good for slimmer faces for a healthy glow

 

Cheekbones:

They are just below the apples of your cheeks, you can find them with your fingers or a brush.

A plusher palette in a varay of pinks and oranges

 

Eyes:

Eye Eyeshadow

There are three main types of eyeshadow; cream, loose and pressed.

Cream these eyeshadows work best as a base color for powder eye shadow, or for solid, single-color coverage.
Loose these eyeshadows are often where you find the most color pigment, but can be messy and tricky to work with.
Pressed these eyeshadows are the most common type of shadow, because they blend easily without being too messy.

There are a selection of eyeshadow brushes out there, which do different jobs for applying make up to your eyes.
If you’re just getting started out with make up, I suggest getting 2 brushs that you can practice with.
* Stiff flat brush:
Use this to apply eyeshadow to your entire lid. This brush is best for picking up lots of pigment and distributing it over your entire eyelid.
* Soft stiff dome brush:
This is used for applying eyeshadow to your crease and blending it outwards.

Application:

Starting from the outer corner of your eye gently dab a nude colour across your lid using the stiff flat brush. Make sure to go no further than the crease of the lid.
The crease is the small gap between the top of the eyeball and the bottom of your brow bone. You can use your finger or the brush to find that space. Then sweep back and forth in a gentle rainbow motion to ensure the area is covered.
For a pop of colour, add a brighter eyeshadow in the centre of your lid and blend out using soft strokes in the Direction of the outer corner.

Using the tip of your brush apply a small amount of white/cream coloured shadow to the inner corner of your eye, use small soft strokes to blend out gently. This brightens your eyes considerably and gives the illusion of your eyes being bigger.

Eyeshadow palette ranging from light colours in the top left and darker shades to the bottom right

 

Eyeliner.

There are three types of eyeliners; pencil, gel and liquid.

Pencil: this gives your eyes a sharp and a defined look. Make sure to always sharpen your pencil before applying.

Gel: glides on easily and effortlessly. They usually come in a little pot with a brush.

Liquid: gives your eyes that bold look. Liquid liners are used for precision, they may come in a tube with a brush, or a pot and pen style.

The best way to apply any eyeliner is to: sit, place your elbow on a flat surface and rest your pinky on your cheekbone. This will keep your hand nice and steady during application.

Application:
Applying eyeliner can take a lot of practice so don’t be disheartened if it’s not perfect.

Start on the outer corner of your eye. Look the opposite way two the eye you are applying, for example if you are starting with your right eye, look across to your left. This actually Titans your eyes naturally so you can get a smoother finish.
Gently spot or dash along the eyeline until you reach the inner corner.
Connect the dots or dash to complete the line.

If you are totally blind this method may not work for you, so I would suggest starting from the outer corner and doing small strokes until you reach the inner corner of your eye. Again, this will take a lot of practice, and do not be disheartened if it is not straight or equal. Just ask a sighted person to give you guidance on correcting it

Once you feel confident putting eyeliner on your lower lids, feel free to try applying liner on your upper lids following the same process. I would suggest keeping your eyes closed and looking down, this naturally Titans the eyelid and gives a smoother finish.

What color eyeliner should you use for each eye colour?

Green:
Red is a complementary color for green, so choose shades that have red undertones, such as purple: Lavender, plum or violet. You can also use light brown or bronze.
Blue:
Colours that compliment blue are; purple, silver,, grey and brown.

Hazel:
Rich, autumnal colors like golds, browns, and greens as these colours would enhance the color of your eyes.

Brown:
Use shades of blue/purples and metallic tones of golds, browns, and bronze as these will make the eyes stand out

A selection of diffrent colour eye shadows

Mascara:

Choosing a mascara can become a bit of a minefield, but don’t be put off, you just need to simplify what it is you want from a mascara.
Do you want to volumise or lengthen your lashes?
What colour do you want? There are so many colours to choose from, but a popular choice is black, or brown for those who are fair skinned.

Do you sweat a lot or are you in an environment that’s damp or wet? If so, you will need a waterproof mascara.
You will also need a kind and gentle make up remover, but one that can tackle your water resistant lashes.

There are a number of different brands that range in price, drugstore to high-end. Once you have decided what type/colour you are going for, it’s time to shop around. Use the Internet, friends/family and even beauty representatives to discuss your wants and needs in a mascara.

Curl your eyelashes first.

Start by curling your lashes with a lash curler. Using your thumb and forefinger open the eyelash curlers. Keeping your eye open, place the curler at the base of your upper lashes.
Close the curler gently onto your lashes, bringing your finger and thumb together, and close your eye. Hold it in place and gently tilt your wrist up so the handle is at 90° to your eye. Hold for a few seconds then gently release by pulling your thumb and forefinger apart.

Application:
Before applying any I make up you should use primer.
Primer for your eyes is invaluable. It helps keep your eyeshadow intact, so you do not need to reapply during the day.

Taking the tube of mascara, swirl the wand around to coat the bristles with the mascara properly. Make sure you’re not pumping your wand into the tube repeatedly. This pushes air into the tube where bacteria contaminates the wand. this also makes the mascara clumpy, and it dries out faster.

Open your eyes as wide as you can and look towards the ceiling; starting at the roots, apply the mascara with a wriggling motion. This ensures that there is more volume at the roots, and your lashes don’t feel weighed down.

Place your other hand under your eye to help guide your dominant hand in, so you can find your lashes.
Alternatively, buy sample packs of mascara so the wand is shorter and the bristles are smaller, this can help when you are first learning to apply mascara




There are 3 ways to apply make up to your eyebrows; brow mascara, eyeshadow and brow pencil.
You can buy eyebrow mascara from anywhere that sells make up, eyebrow mascara is essentially a miniature version of mascara for your brows.
After getting rid of any XS on your wand, start from the inner corner of your brow and do short strokes through the eyebrow hair.

For those who would like to try darkening their eyebrows, but don’t yet feel confident enough, using a brow mascara or pencil, you can use your eyeshadow that matches the colour of your hair.
To do this; dip a thin eye brush into your eyeshadow palette, and tapping off any XS.
Starting from the inner corner of your bro follow the shape of your natural brow using small strokes of the brush until you reach the tip.

Pencil:
Hold a pencil point up and vertical against your nose to see where your eyebrow should begin. The edge of the pencil that is closer to your nose marks the line where your brow should start.

Locate the ideal end point of your brow, which should be at a 45-degree angle from the outer corner of your eye. Still holding the pencil against the side of your nostril, pivot the point of the pencil away from your nose and to the outer corner of your eye. That is where the tail of your eyebrow should be.
you are trying to draw what looks like many individual hairs, Giving a natural feathered look .

Lips.

There are several types of lipsticks, some include; satin/sheer, matte, liquid, Cream and gloss.
Saturn/Sheer: These are oil base lipsticks that moisturise lips, but need to be reapplied often.
Matte: these are bright and bold lipsticks that give a flat and non-shiny look.
Cream: good for women with small lips, it gives the fuller lip affect. It is not shiny but gives a creamy look.
Gloss: gives the lips a shine and enHances th shape. Good for women who have small or thin lips.
Liquid:
It contains the pigment of a lipstick and the slide and Sheen of a gloss.

It’s recommended that you find a lipstick that is 2 shades darker than your natural lip. To test this out put a small amount of lipstick on your bottom lip and see if it is 2 shades darker than your top lip..

Many women wrongly believe they can’t wear red lipstick. Red lipstick is timeless and bridges age and culture. The secret to choosing the right red lip color is in the undertones. Pink-skinned girls should opt for cherry red. Those with olive skin can wear fire-engine red. Dark skin looks great with deep reds.

Application:

You should always apply lip balm before beginning your lip make up. Depending on the lipstick you are going to use, you may need to dab off the XS with a tissue.
This moisturises your lips, and also acts like a primer for the lipstick.




Lip liner:

Choose a nude or a colour that matches your lipstick perfectly
To get the best look you will want to make your lips taut over your teeth and opening your mouth wider than usual.
Begin by making a cross on your upper lip at the point of your cupids bow.
From there use small thin strokes and follow the entirety of your upper lip line, making sure to go right to the corners of your mouth.
For your lower lips start from the corner of your mouth and work your way in to the plumpest part of your lip you can repeat this on the other side if your hand isn’t steady enough.
Lipliner gives your lips definition and also stops your lipstick from running, or bleeding, as it is known.

Lipstick:

To give your lips definition, repeat the cross at your Cupid’s bow.
Slowly blend the lipstick over your upper lip ensuring that you keep within the lip liner, and follow down to the corner of your mouth.
On your lower lip start from the corner of your mouth and blend to the centre of your lip.
Rub your lips together; this makes sure your lipstick is blended equally and has a natural finish.
If you feel there is too much lipstick, fold a piece of tissue in half and gently clamp your mouth around it. This will take of any excess, and is called blotting.




***I hope this post has been useful, giving you basic knowledge of make up application.
If you enjoyed this post and would like to read any more tips or guides, please just let me know 🙂

******A massive thank you to my gorgeous sister, who not only is my very own make up artist, but helped me write this guide. Ensuring I explained it in an easy to follow manner 🙂
Love you bro xxx